Parents-Control Your Children!!!

iluvdogs111 · March 2011

Today was my little sister's birthday and we all went out for dinner. Yay, my sister's favorite resteraunt, having some family fun, good food, ice cream. Has to be a great night, right? Wrong. There was one problem. (Ok, two if you count the service being super slow.) The family sitting next to us, 2 women, a man, a toddler and a baby were out of control! The little boy who looked about 3 or 4 was already being loud when we got there, and the parents were obviously annoyed. One look at the mother (I think she was the mom?) and I knew this could not be good. Covered in tatoos, piercings, bright dyed hair....now I'm not trying to say those people are bad or something, but with the way she was talking and the way she was dressing I could kind of tell.... Anyways, she was getting very frustrated with her little boy, who was being loud, begging for ice cream, getting out of his seat, etc. I thought that was the worst. Then he dissapeared, I thought he went to the restroom. I was thinking, "Hmm, it's odd for a kid that young to be going to the restroom alone." Then I realized he was running around the resteraunt! His mom called him back, he sat for 10seconds then got up and ran around again! His parents did nothing about it! You could hear him running and yelling on the other side of the resteraunt! And still his parents ignored him! The mom was too concerned about what toppings she would get on her sundae to care about her toddler running around the resteraunt screaming. She let him do this for alomst 10minutes without even attempting to find him. What if he was kidnapped? The mom wouldn't know until it was too late. She called him back, "your food's here!" He took a bite of the ice cream he'd begged for earlier then ran away again. My mom and I just kept looking at each other, appauled. He finally came back, SWORE saying a word I didn't even KNOW until I was at least 11, didn't eat any of his dessert, then ran around until it was time for them to finally leaved. Yeah, if that was me my parents would've taken me straight home and punished me. I don't know if this is considerd normal to some people but to me the way I was raised it is shocking.....that is dangerous for the kid and disrupting to the other diners. If I was the manager I would have kicked them out.

Coconayr · March 2011

Oh, Luvvy. That annoys me as well

There's lots of that going on where I live though... Just the other night, I went out, and some kid actually hopped into my booth! I was like, 'Excuse me? I don't think I can help you." And he ran off. Don't get me wrong, I love children, but that's just not right! I know what you mean about if that was you... If it were me, my parents probably wouldn't even take me out anymore. Not that they take me out a lot anyways, lol. The manager SHOULD have kicked them out

RoyalRaccoon · March 2011

I really dislike children, so I'm sure I'd be angry in that situation; however, you have to consider that you don't always know the full situation or share the same opinions as others. Maybe the child has a disorder like autism or attention deficit that prevents them from calming down, and maybe the mother just doesn't know how to handle it, or maybe she's desensitized to it, or maybe they are under the impression that kind of behavior is acceptable in that restaurant(it's definitely normal at Chuck E. Cheese's). Nonetheless, If it ever happens again all you have to do is call a service person over to your table, and discretely tell them that you're dinner is being disrupted by other the customer's child. After all, the parent's won't know other people are being disturbed unless someone says something.

Beaglepaw · March 2011

Well, though I'm a (older) child myself, I really am with PrinceSushi- I don't care for kids that much either. But like PrinceSushi said, maybe the child has a defect or disease that they cant help, and it makes them not be able to calm down.

AshleeBrooke · March 2011

I still don't consider that good behavior in Chuck E. Cheese. lol I am though one of these parents that if my kids are being bad, don't eat, or playing around they are not going to get dessert. They are going to be escorted to the closest bathroom or out to the car to get a swift butt spanking. It doesn't take long for a child to learn good behavior. To this day though I have no problem taking my kids out to eat. They know how to act in public and I expect the best behavior from them in public. Heck I know people that refuse to take their one child to go grocery shopping with them. I guess I had no choice and my 3 are always going to the grocery store with me.

KittKattize · March 2011

I remember as a kid that we had better be on our best behavior in public. My parents wouldn't tolerate that in the house, so why should the rules change elsewhere? They weren't afraid to just get up and leave without eating yet. Zoe, I have to say, I am proud to hear that someone still spanks. I was spanked loads of times and I'm pretty sure that the message got through to me better than a grounding. Nowadays, if you so much as touch your kid they can call children's aid. I really believe that a lot of kids now deserve a good spanking and don't know what that is. I know that my kids are going to be super polite, I kind of turn into some nasty, Hulk like person when it comes to manners.

iluvdogs111 · March 2011

Coco- Yes, it was very annoying! Jumped into your booth! How awful! PrinceSushi- I don't think this child had a disorder....I mean it's possible that he could have, but from my point of view he was just trying to annoy his parents, and it worked. Instead of controlling the situation they were just getting so angry that they gave in. I'm not an adult yet, but I have a lot of experience with kids and I plan on being a mother and teacher in the future. I could easily tell that this child had no boundaries or rules, and if he did they weren't enforced. And I have to diagree with you a little. Yes, maybe they are desensitized to it but that doesn't make it right. I blame all this on the parents. Beaglepaw- Same thing I said above. Zoe- I completly agree with you. My parents would have never allowed that. My mom said it was a good parenting lesson for me when I'm a mom someday, don't let your kids get out of control! Kitt- Yes, I was spanked too and it did me no harm! I don't want to get too far into this because it could become an argument, but I agree with you, people are so strict about that stuff, but if it's done the right away it's actually good for a child!

EmmeZoec · March 2011

Ugh I HATE LITTLE KIDS I am never having any I gate how they don't listen at all and if I swore In front of my mom she would kill me that or if I had some thing special coming up with my dogs we wouldn't be going I almost wasnt going to be allowed to go to my obedience match this weekend because I wouldn't get up for ccd

Braeton · March 2011

Haha wow this is quite interesting. I'm happy to say I love little kids and babies, and I find no reason to "hate" them when it is likely that it is the parent's fault they are misbehaving! Like many of you, I grew up getting many spankings! It's a good way to get the point across. I also agree with PrinceSushi, they might have attention deficit or autism or something like that to cause their behavior. In fact, my little brother has attention deficit and he is still a struggle for my parents to raise. Always getting up out of his seat and things like that, but I think my parents handled him well. He is currently 13 and is still tough to deal with but getting better every day! Overall, I do have to disagree with most of you and I just can't say how much I love kids. Their behavior at that age is almost always a reflection of how they were raised, and you shouldn't blame them for that!

iluvdogs111 · March 2011

I agree with you! I love kids so much, and even if I give up my time, money, and possibly career I would become a mother! I already have it planned that I want 5 children. If they have rules, discipline, and love they are great, it's always the parents fault. I don't understand how anyone could hate kids.....

Frostbight8 · March 2011

Spanking didn't work too well with me.. If my mom spanked me I'd just yell "Again! Again!" It didn't bother me but I'm pretty sure it still sent a clear message. Anyway, I'm not big on little kids. Older kids are fine but the toddlers can do as they please, as long as they stay away from me and keep quiet. Behaved kids certainly as common as the used to be. The other day some lady started screaming at her kid who was begging for something. Even after she screamed, he got what he wanted.

Cybergirl · March 2011

I love little kids to death, but I hate what that happens. Once I was in a public bathroom and I walked into a stall and some little girl just crawled right under the door after me and stared at me for a good while until her mom was like "Hey get back over here!" I was like o_O what the heck. I can tolerate it if the kid has some kind of disability or something, but if its just bad parenting thats what makes me mad.

SunnyDaysDontLie · March 2011

iluvdogs111 wrote:

Today was my little sister's birthday and we all went out for dinner. Yay, my sister's favorite resteraunt, having some family fun, good food, ice cream. Has to be a great night, right? Wrong. There was one problem. (Ok, two if you count the service being super slow.) The family sitting next to us, 2 women, a man, a toddler and a baby were out of control! The little boy who looked about 3 or 4 was already being loud when we got there, and the parents were obviously annoyed. One look at the mother (I think she was the mom?) and I knew this could not be good. Covered in tatoos, piercings, bright dyed hair....now I'm not trying to say those people are bad or something, but with the way she was talking and the way she was dressing I could kind of tell.... Anyways, she was getting very frustrated with her little boy, who was being loud, begging for ice cream, getting out of his seat, etc. I thought that was the worst. Then he dissapeared, I thought he went to the restroom. I was thinking, "Hmm, it's odd for a kid that young to be going to the restroom alone." Then I realized he was running around the resteraunt! His mom called him back, he sat for 10seconds then got up and ran around again! His parents did nothing about it! You could hear him running and yelling on the other side of the resteraunt! And still his parents ignored him! The mom was too concerned about what toppings she would get on her sundae to care about her toddler running around the resteraunt screaming. She let him do this for alomst 10minutes without even attempting to find him. What if he was kidnapped? The mom wouldn't know until it was too late. She called him back, "your food's here!" He took a bite of the ice cream he'd begged for earlier then ran away again. My mom and I just kept looking at each other, appauled. He finally came back, SWORE saying a word I didn't even KNOW until I was at least 11, didn't eat any of his dessert, then ran around until it was time for them to finally leaved. Yeah, if that was me my parents would've taken me straight home and punished me. I don't know if this is considerd normal to some people but to me the way I was raised it is shocking.....that is dangerous for the kid and disrupting to the other diners. If I was the manager I would have kicked them out.

I'm telling you, some people just don't deserve to be parents. It amazes me sometimes.

Frostbight8 · March 2011

Little perv! I've had something similar happen to me before. I was mixed in with a bunch of younger kids for summer camp. I went to the bathroom and a bunch of kindergartens walk in and stand right in front of my stall door, staring at me through the crack! I kicked the door and they ran away but seriously!

Cybergirl · March 2011

What I dont understand is you have to have a lisence to own a dog but anyone can have a baby...theres something wrong with that.

iluvdogs111 · March 2011

I know. My mom tried so hard to have kids, she hoped to have a big family but it never worked out, she lost a lot of babies for unknown causes and she's lucky she has me and my sister. My best friend's mom has 4 kids, hoped to have another one but got cancer and couldn't. Her cancer healed and their family was adopting a little boy, but it didn't go through because she used to have cancer. Then people that don't even appreciate or care about their kids have kids.....it doesn't seem right....

Sea Oats · March 2011

Zoe wrote:

I still don't consider that good behavior in Chuck E. Cheese. lol I am though one of these parents that if my kids are being bad, don't eat, or playing around they are not going to get dessert. They are going to be escorted to the closest bathroom or out to the car to get a swift butt spanking. It doesn't take long for a child to learn good behavior. To this day though I have no problem taking my kids out to eat. They know how to act in public and I expect the best behavior from them in public. Heck I know people that refuse to take their one child to go grocery shopping with them. I guess I had no choice and my 3 are always going to the grocery store with me.

When I originally read the first post, all I could think was 'my God, my mother would have slapped me silly.' Then saw your post and, you deserve a trophy. My family is from the south, we've always lived in the south, and southerners physically discipline their kids, always. My mom, grandparents, etc have always been strong believers in a good switch, hell they'd even let us pick out our own. I've had people tell me that my mom must be awful, and that she abuses me, and I've been told that my whole life, but you know what? I NEVER acted out in public as a child. I think MAYBE once my mom had to spank me in a public place, and she wasn't afraid to do it at the table, and I learned my lesson right then and there. I've been hit with paddles, wooden spoons, switches and even a belt a few times, though my mom would fold it in half and hold the end and the buckle in her hand, and once the metal buckle slipped out of her hand and hit my knee and left a huge bruise and still a scar.. she never used a belt again. I personally love children, but I HATE parents that don't know how to discipline them. I don't care what you say or believe, a time out with your nose in the corner doesn't work for anyone, if you make a kid think twice about what they're gonna get if they do something wrong, they're not going to do it. I work in a grocery store and I see these out of control children a lot and it drives me insane that either the parents don't seem to care or notice, or they think it's cute. I personally feel embarrassed for people like this. Kids running around with carts, running into displays, sliding across the floor on their knees, throwing fruit, screaming over and over until they get what they want. If that had been me, I'd never be allowed to the grocery store again. And I understand that some children have problems and may not be able to control their actions per say, but if you ask me, behavioral issues can be prevented in all situations, especially if your child has a disorder, because that just means as a parent you should have an even closer watch over them at all times.

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