Just a little rant, and something I need advice on

Trianna · May 2009

Ok, so a few things bother me... 1) Why does everyone always make such a big deal over age differences? My bf is 17, 2 years older than me. We live together, with my mom, due to a few things. And yes, we share a room. What is so horrible about that? We have been together for almost a year now, and we are engaged. Most people i know say that we're to young to even think about that, but we've been through a lot together, including the death of the person I looked up to most in the world, my grandmother Ometa. He never left my side through that. My grandmother hated most people, but she liked Jer. She even asked to talk to him when she was on her deathbed. That meant a lot to me, and knowing she approved of him did too. So is it really such a horrible thing that I'm 15 and he's 17? And are we really too immature to make that sort of discision? 2) My mother wants to get rid of my cats. She says we have too many. We have 11. We live in the country, and all but 2 of them are outdoor cats. She says they cost too much too feed, but I pay for their food and the outdoor ones hunt anyway. What bothers me the most is that she just wants to drop them off at a farm or something. She says that the farmers would be happy to have barn cats. She wants me to pick 1 or 2 to keep. I have raised all my cats since they were born. I even bottle fed a few. I love my cats. She can't even tell them apart. She says that it isn't possible to love an animal. I really don't know what to do. She says she is going to get rid of them sometime when I'm at school. How can I convince her not to get rid of them, or at least not to drop them off on the side of the road?

rohesia · May 2009

1) I honestly have no idea why people are so particular about age. I mean, I can see some people raising eyebrows at my boyfriend and I, but I believe that if your in love, there's no reason not to be, as long as your not being taken advantage of. I will say however, that at 15, I think you ought to be living at home, but that's your own decision. Sharing a room is nothing to be worried about for other people, its not their business, unless its your parents, in which case, its legally their business for three years at the least. Just hang on until your 18. 15 and 17 is not a huge gap. Think into the future when your 20 and he's 22. That's a very common thing. I think however if your sharing a room/bed, you may be a bit to young for that. I have strong views about appropriate ages for things like... ehm. well the obvious. Not sure if I can say it on here, and honestly, I don't want to, as there are a lot of younger players on here. About being engaged... hon, your still in school. Wait until your a bit older to be engaged- there are always repercussions when your dating in school. Aside from that, you dont know he's the one. Even if you've been dating for nearly a year, that's a bit rushed. I waited 7 months after meeting my boyfriend to even consider moving into his house... and just for weekends, in fact. (Though now that I only have exams, I pretty much live there now, despite the fact that he's in France until July) But if your so set on it, then go for it, and dont let others' opinions phase you.

TheDogHandler · May 2009

i watched doctor who withh this geek :] lol its crap. no ofence

im just highly bored. :] so speak?

Pandalove · May 2009

rohesia wrote:

About being engaged... hon, your still in school. Wait until your a bit older to be engaged- there are always repercussions when your dating in school. Aside from that, you dont know he's the one. Even if you've been dating for nearly a year, that's a bit rushed.

I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months, and we are getting engaged, he is actually a few months younger than me, we are both 16. I don't think it matters when you get engaged, I know for a fact that he is my true love, and I think it's funny when people say that I'm rushing, and that it's just a phase, no one can tell anyone how they feel, or how they should use thier life, I actually do plan on going to college, and I don't plan on getting married until I am 18 or so. I don't live with him yet, I plan on moving in with him in January, -when I am going to college.- I already have been accepted, I already have a photography job, -what I am going to major in- as a team leader for a missonary group, I didn't think anything was going to ever fall in place, but after I met my boyfriend, everything began to catch up. :]

Pandalove · May 2009

TheDogHandler wrote:

i watched doctor who withh this geek :] lol its crap. no ofence im just highly bored. :] so speak?

Um, wow. I understand none of this. 0_o

Erra · May 2009

As for the age thing - people will always want to think what they want to think. The important thing to do is follow your morals and do what is right. After all, at the end of the day, there is only one person you need to be able to live with, and that's yourself. Tell your mother that your cats are something that you are taking responsibility for. Try to remind her that just because one person feels something is a certain way does not mean it is true for all people. Explain to her that they are very important to you, and that your home is a good one. Show her the statistics on how many animals change their homes, their lives, everything on the whims of a human in their lives. Explain to her that if they are causing problems, you are more than ready to be responsible and help alleviate any issues before you jump to the most extreme conclusion, and that denying you the opportunity to take that kind of responsibility is a little counter-intuitive. Shouldn't she be encouraging you to take care of what is yours rather than throwing it away out of inconvenience? How will you ever learn commitment under that kind of pressure?

Kazuko · May 2009

I don't have a problem with age differences. My boyfriend (fiance? That's kinda weird to say. XD) and I are three and a half years apart, or so. We've been dating for two and a half years. xD We've decided to get married, although I still have another 8 months or so until I can legally say I do. xD He turns 21 this year. xD; However, this wasn't decided spur-of-the-moment. He's going into the Navy, and while this upsets me a ton, I encourage him to do so. I'll be staying in Arizona while he travels to California. I'll spend at least two years until I get most of my main college classes done, then move to California to get my major in law or whatnot. I will be allowed on-base with him since we are married, as well as cool little perks like extra housing money etc. Marriage isn't something I'd rush into. Hell, I'm a bit freaked out thinking it's going too fast as it is. xD Sharing a room and a bed, as long as nothing is going on, is fine. Hell, Vincent and I nap together a -ton-. xD I love to sleep, what can I say. So age? Not a huge difference in my mind. However, in most communities it is. And as for the cats? I dunno. My parents won't even let me get a hamster. xD

Trianna · May 2009

Thanks for the advice everyone

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Just a little rant, and something I need advice on

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