Y'Know? I'm Getting Sick Of It.

Frostbight8 · May 2012

I've been told by many people that the age I'm at is where you're really starting to figure out who you are. At first, I didn't think that was true, I get what they mean now. There is this kid who has been my best friend since the 1st grade, and for me, that is quite a while. We'll call him Cole. Recently, Cole has gotten into the "popular" group. This doesn't surprise me at all, his cousin was already "popular", he has the right personality, and most of all, the family is.. Comfortable. I say comfortable because they aren't quite rich, but money isn't a huge deal. Anyway, Cole is "popular", and you could say I take the category of a "nobody". Not made fun of, just ignored. What has been bothering me is, in school, Cole ignores me like the other popular people. If I try to talk to him, he doesn't say much of anything, we both stand in an awkward silence, then he wanders off to go find some of the girls or his cousin. But out of school.. It's like it used to be, we're all buddy-buddy. Not only that, but he knows what being ignored feels like. Last year, you could say, everything fell apart for Cole socially. His cousin, who is already a bit of a jerk, started excluding him from things. Cole and his cousin are pretty close, being the same age. So naturally, being ignored by his cousin really bothered him. It got to the point where he couldn't go to school for the whole day because when he was there, he didn't feel good. Without his cousin, guess who was left? Me. He was pretty clingy last year, and I spent a lot of time with him. Basically, I was there for him. Now I'm in that position, just not as bad and there isn't anybody to go to. I don't want to force him to be my friend, but I wanna talk to him about it. I'm just afraid if I do, it'll be a huge fight. And, in all honesty we've -never- fought. People say, "Oh, he doesn't sound like a very good friend, ignore him back!" But it's not that easy. He is a good friend, just not in school. Besides (these are Cole's own words), how do you just defriend somebody?

Para Darkwater · May 2012

I know where you are coming from and have been there. I was always a nobody in school and kinda still am. I'm a rather quite person in real life and get looked over a lot. I had been friends with a guy for a long time and I always tried to be a good friend. Was always there when he needed someone to talk to or when things crumbled apart, was there in the good times when he needed to just hang out and have some fun, catch a movie what have you. I was always there for him no matter what was going on. Well things started to change as they always do. He didn't get popular but did start to hang with some new "friends" and I use that term lightly. They were kinda a bad group and got him involved in a lot of things that wasn't good. He began to change and soon I wasn't even looking at the same person any more. After another year or so our friendship pretty much fell to the way side. I have heard through the grape vine though that he now realizes what a jerk he was being and regrets a lot of things. Sadly its too late now as I've move on with my life. It stinks but from what I've learned through personal experience and from observation is that the older you get the harder it is to keep old friends. People grow, they change, life changes and gives everyone different circumstances. Often with all the change people tend to go in different directions. That post probably wasn't much help but I do know where you are coming from and it really does stink.

lovefrompaige · June 2012

It stinks but from what I've learned through personal experience and from observation is that the older you get the harder it is to keep old friends. People grow, they change, life changes and gives everyone different circumstances. Often with all the change people tend to go in different directions. That post probably wasn't much help but I do know where you are coming from and it really does stink.

Amen. Only my friend is a girl who thinks she is in the popular crowd and tries to pull me in. I like being who I am. I'm kinda in the middle. I'll hang with the "popular" kids but don't really text them all the time and what not. Like they're friends, but not close friends. She tries to push me into something I'm not and when I can't do it or don't want to get involved with those things, she ignores me. There's one thing I can't handle and I know its a bad quality to have but I care a crazy lot of what my friends think of me. If they're mad at me, I care a lot. I'm not the type of person to blow someone off if they're upset. I've known this girl since second grade and we have dubbed each other sisters. But since we're both growing up, I've noticed lately that she has changed a lot. She's very snappy and impatient. She wants to grow up and act like she's twenty five. She tries to drag me into things as her "wing girl", not so much as a friend. You can't really just defriend someone. Or at least, I can't. It drives me crazy... I totally get what you mean. Both of you. I guess you just have to wait for the moment.. Honestly, I think the only thing that can help is if you talk to him. But then again, I can't go giving you advice on which I haven't even had the guts to do because it might lead to an argument. ): I'm sorry Frost. I really hope something happens.<3

Para Darkwater · June 2012

lovefrompaige wrote:

 Amen. Only my friend is a girl who thinks she is in the popular crowd and tries to pull me in. I like being who I am. I'm kinda in the middle. I'll hang with the "popular" kids but don't really text them all the time and what not. Like they're friends, but not close friends. She tries to push me into something I'm not and when I can't do it or don't want to get involved with those things, she ignores me. There's one thing I can't handle and I know its a bad quality to have but I care a crazy lot of what my friends think of me. If they're mad at me, I care a lot. I'm not the type of person to blow someone off if they're upset. I've known this girl since second grade and we have dubbed each other sisters. But since we're both growing up, I've noticed lately that she has changed a lot. She's very snappy and impatient. She wants to grow up and act like she's twenty five. She tries to drag me into things as her "wing girl", not so much as a friend. You can't really just defriend someone. Or at least, I can't. It drives me crazy... I totally get what you mean. Both of you. I guess you just have to wait for the moment.. Honestly, I think the only thing that can help is if you talk to him. But then again, I can't go giving you advice on which I haven't even had the guts to do because it might lead to an argument. ): I'm sorry Frost. I really hope something happens.<3

I know where you're coming from too with this one, reminded me of how me and my cousin use to be. She always wanted to be in the popular crown and simi was. We were very close growing up and everyone though of us as sisters more than just cousins. She started to really change when we got into high school and wanted to change me along with her. Didn't happen as like you I am more own person. Just like with my other friend I mentioned in my first post we continued to drift apart and she has now turned into the kind of person I don't really like. She did something to really hurt me and now we don't talk, only maybe a "hi" during the holidays. I'm the kind of person that will take a lot from people and I give a lot out even if nothing gets returned but there comes a point when enough is enough and sadly that happened with her and the previous friend. They both hurt me very badly and basically pushed me to the way side. Seems the older you get the less friends you have but also you'll learn who your true friends are in the process. Frost sorry for taking over your thread lol. I do hope things smooth over and work out for the best. Even if things do end up the way you want sometimes you find out it was for the best later down the line. some people come into our lives for a short time, others stay for a long time, others never leave. Though some come and go they all leave their imprints on us in some way.

Para Darkwater · June 2012

Paranormal Wolf wrote:

lovefrompaige wrote:

 Amen. Only my friend is a girl who thinks she is in the popular crowd and tries to pull me in. I like being who I am. I'm kinda in the middle. I'll hang with the "popular" kids but don't really text them all the time and what not. Like they're friends, but not close friends. She tries to push me into something I'm not and when I can't do it or don't want to get involved with those things, she ignores me. There's one thing I can't handle and I know its a bad quality to have but I care a crazy lot of what my friends think of me. If they're mad at me, I care a lot. I'm not the type of person to blow someone off if they're upset. I've known this girl since second grade and we have dubbed each other sisters. But since we're both growing up, I've noticed lately that she has changed a lot. She's very snappy and impatient. She wants to grow up and act like she's twenty five. She tries to drag me into things as her "wing girl", not so much as a friend. You can't really just defriend someone. Or at least, I can't. It drives me crazy... I totally get what you mean. Both of you. I guess you just have to wait for the moment.. Honestly, I think the only thing that can help is if you talk to him. But then again, I can't go giving you advice on which I haven't even had the guts to do because it might lead to an argument. ): I'm sorry Frost. I really hope something happens.<3

 I know where you're coming from too with this one, reminded me of how me and my cousin use to be. She always wanted to be in the popular crown and simi was. We were very close growing up and everyone though of us as sisters more than just cousins. She started to really change when we got into high school and wanted to change me along with her. Didn't happen as like you I am more own person. Just like with my other friend I mentioned in my first post we continued to drift apart and she has now turned into the kind of person I don't really like. She did something to really hurt me and now we don't talk, only maybe a "hi" during the holidays. I'm the kind of person that will take a lot from people and I give a lot out even if nothing gets returned but there comes a point when enough is enough and sadly that happened with her and the previous friend. They both hurt me very badly and basically pushed me to the way side. Seems the older you get the less friends you have but also you'll learn who your true friends are in the process. Frost sorry for taking over your thread lol. I do hope things smooth over and work out for the best. Even if things do end up the way you want sometimes you find out it was for the best later down the line. some people come into our lives for a short time, others stay for a long time, others never leave. Though some come and go they all leave their imprints on us in some way.

^ Should say Even if things don't end up the way you want^ For some reason the edit button didn't show for this post >_<

Frostbight8 · June 2012

Thanks, guys.. Sometimes it does help just to vent and get a little feedback. One of the reasons I'm afraid of an argument is because I'm pretty bitter about the subject. You know how you create scenario's in your head sometimes? I've done this multiple times, and every time I find something harsh to say to him. XD And besides, the only time I really get to talk to him anymore is at his house. If I start a fight there, what am I gonna do? Lock myself in the bathroom for a few hours until somebody picks me up? O_o

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