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Sometimes It Is Too Much..

edited May 2012 in Vent
I think I'm going to start seeing a lot of change in my life, and whether for the good or for the better, I'm really not sure. And it scares me.<br><br>As of today, my stepdad is retired. I've vented about him before.. And here I go again. Don't take me the wrong when I say this, I don't mind doing some work around the house. But he thinks I'm Cinderella, most kids spend their Saturday's at the mall? I clean the house. Not just "clean your room", although that is among the list. I clean my room, dust the house, sweep the floors (sometimes wash as well), and then Windex the kitchen appliances, bathroom mirrors and counters. It wouldn't matter that much, except for when his daughter comes up, he doesn't make her do a thing. She talks back, ignores what he tells her to do, everything. If my tone even gets irritable, I get yelled at. I know I shouldn't get irritable, and I try, I do. It just doesn't help when he criticizes me constantly, not being able to fight back takes a toll.<br>When he was working, that was my escape. If I had off, I had the house to myself. Now he'll be there when I get home, when I have off, everything. My mom is getting short, she's starting to say things like "I don't know how this is going to work." Or "Retirement is going to be unbearable." My stepdad acts like he is two. If his plans get screwed up, he'll get all bent out of shape. If my mom doesn't run upstairs immeadiately to say "hi" when he gets home, he'll get mad. My stepdad needs her to sit with him downstairs every night, and if she misses a minute, he gives the, "We rarely see each other." Speech. He is a real people person, and needs to be in the center of attention. Now, he will be alone all day, so when my mom gets home, he is going to want immeadiate attention. She still has things to do, get ready for work. It's just.. A lot to take on. <br><br>He has been talking about retiring forever, and now that he has, I can't grasp it. I understand what it's going to be like, but, I can't describe it. A nightmare come true, I guess.<br><br>Tonight, he told me to do the dishes and that I should do them every night to help my mom because she works hard everyday. This much is true. I must not have looked too happy because he said, "I'm not yelling at you, you should just help your mother whenever you can." My mom was upstairs, and overheard. She came downstairs, must've been scowling because my stepdad asked her what the face was for, and she told him. Now they're already in a fight. My mom was trying to get me to tell her he said something he never said. She was still mad, and I really wanted to say that she just started an unnecessary war. But then she asked me if she was only making it worse, because when she fights with him, it usually ends up with them arguing over how he treats me. So, since I don't want her to stop fighting for me, I didn't say anything. Now I've locked myself in the bathroom, crying. <br><br>Cookies to anybody who managed to read all of that. XD
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  • Aww. I dont have a stepdad. I wish the best. Best of luck to you and your Mom. :D
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  • Aww frosty that is not good. He shouldn't treat you like a slave, but then again when i see my mum which is like once every 2-6months (depends on how she feels) she shouts at me if i leave like 1 wrapper from some food on the chair, and its like arg... so i get how it feels to be shouted at for doing something like that.<br><br>Also why should he shout at you for being irritable? your a teenager what does he expect... my dads girlfriend gets mad at me if i don't wash the pots and she doesn't even live here.... its not very fun.<br><br>About your step-sister, im guessing he treats her differently because first of all shes his daughter not someone elses, and secondly because he doesn't see her everyday therefore won't tell her off. Which is very unfair. Then again my step-brother who is 2years older than me was complaining that he didn't get an easter egg from his dad and me & my fiance did... and it was like firstly we are younger than you... secondly my mother bought them for us not your dad... erg step-siblings can be VERY annoying, so i feel for you <br><br>Hopefully one day your mum may think that their relationship isn't working how it is... and may leave him... if not save up and move when you are old enough too. <br>I hope everything gets better for you soon :D If not I'm here if you need to talk :D
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  • I hate my stepfather. I always have. I want to call him up one day and tell him that he's not a father to me and nothing he's ever done has made me feel that way. But if I did that I'd probably never see my mom or my half-siblings ever again. And I'd prefer it if I did, so my mouth is sealed.<br><br>He's not as bad as yours sounds though, but gosh, how much I do hate him. Since the day he came around my life just seemed to spiral out of control and It took a lot to even figure out what was going on and straighten it back up. There's a REASON I don't live with my mom. I get yelled at for stupid ridiculous things like you do and scolded constantly, sometimes insulted, and I have a feeling he doesn't make me work when I'm there because he feels like I'm too incompetent. He'll do the occasional 'nice' thing, but that only serves to confuse me. I'm not sure if he's doing it to be legitimately nice, or because he feels like he has to, and even if he is doing it to be legitimately nice then WHY is he the way he is the other 95% percent of the time? His parents are the same, with the insulting.<br><br>While he's not as bad as your step-father and him and my mom are (somehow) in a good relationship, You still have my complete sympathies. Stepfathers generally just shouldn't exist.
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