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Horsegirl210 · June 2011

Okay, so my parents pull me and my sister into the living room for a "meeting" and I found out the are getting a divorce. I locked myself into my room and I am not coming out. My life is ruined.

GiftyLover · June 2011

I know it is very hard. Do not blame your parents, they are only doing this because they feel it is what is best for you and your sister. Do not blame yourself either, because it is not your fault either. Let your parents know how much you love them, but take the space if you need it.

Horsegirl210 · June 2011

Okay, thanks. (:

GiftyLover · June 2011

I went through the same thing when I was 7, so I know how it feels.

Just cut them some slack and be the best, most understanding daughter you can be. Everything will work-out.

Horsegirl210 · June 2011

Okay.

Trianna · June 2011

Having your parents separate can be really hard, but in the long run it's probably better (for you, and them) than them trying to stay together if things aren't working out. Like Maitre said, it's not your fault, and your parents will still care about you just as much when they're separated as they did when they were together. Just try your best to make it through it. It's ok to feel upset about it, it's a major change in your life, but don't take it out on your parents or anything. I'm sure they already feel pretty bad about it. Talk to your sister about it, or friends who've gone through the same thing. If you need to, talk to your schools guidance counselor. Just remember, everything will work out in the end, even if it doesn't seem like it right now.

Horsegirl210 · June 2011

Ok, thanks (:

MadDingo · June 2011

Actually there are studies that if spouses stayed together during a hard time and didn't get a divorce they are happier in the long run -Just saying. As for Pony I am very sad to hear this. I remeber going to school where all my friends had married parents and mine were split up. It is going to be very hard for you as you are older than I was and know what it is like to have both parents in your life. Just stay strong and know that you have friends on here you can talk to. And we will all be here for you. *Hug*

Horsegirl210 · June 2011

Thanks Dingo... it's really hard because I am only in 7th grade but the good thing is because of this, for Christmas I am getting a puppy, which cheered me up pretty well considering I have never had a dog before!

tarnish · June 2011

My parents divorced when I was 13. I was actually happy about it. I've met only one other person so far that was happy their parents divorced too. The reason is because I could feel tension in the air and I heard a few of the fights. Once they were separated, it wasn't as tense and I could relax. The only thing I wish, is that they could be civil and talk to one another decently but usually they can't see eye-to-eye. Things will get easy Pony. You may notice one or both of your parents seeming more happy and the house more comfortable. Both your parents will still want to do things with you and both love you.

You're life will not be ruined. Things will eventually get better and soon you'll feel used to it. Just hang in there and congrats on the puppy

That has to be fun. Give it an awesome name! =D

Trianna · June 2011

Mad Dingo wrote:

Actually there are studies that if spouses stayed together during a hard time and didn't get a divorce they are happier in the long run -Just saying.

I would think that would be very dependent on the situation. I'm sure that's true in some cases, but in others I think getting divorced is the best choice. If it's something that can be solved with a bit of effort then I'm all for people trying to save their relationship. But if they've already tried, and it's not working splitting up can be for the best. If parents aren't getting along, it could end up being taken out on their children. Or if the parents were arguing a lot, that's not something that's good for their kids to see. Sometimes two people just aren't meant to be together, even if they made a perfect couple at one time. Situations and people change, and trying to force a relationship to work isn't a good idea. Sometimes getting a divorce can save a relationship too. For example, my mother divorced my sister's father long before I was born. Toward the end of their marriage they really couldn't stand each other anymore, they were just very unhappy being together. They started getting along again not to long after their divorce. If they hadn't decided to divorce they would probably still hate each other, but now (almost 20 years later), even though they don't want to be together they are friends. We don't know pumkinponys parents situation though, and it really is none of our business. I'm sure they put a lot of thought into it, and all we can do is help pumpkin get through it.

Mileysmybaby · June 2011

Im sorry pumpky

email me so we can tlk

Horsegirl210 · June 2011

Ok, thanks Myst (:

Sea Oats · June 2011

My dad left when I was in first grade. I just graduated high school. So that's 12 years that my parents have been divorced. As a child I was upset, blamed myself, blamed my parents, one parent would say things to make my sister and I mad at the other. As I've grown older I can see that it was definitely for the best. My parents can't stand the sight of each other and I haven't talked to my dad in three years. They divorced because he was a raging alcoholic and he was abusive. Don't let that scare you, because I'm sure you have a good relationship with your parents, which is why you are upset. I never had a relationship with my dad, even when I was little, and he acted like a complete moron even before they divorced. Your parents will be happier going their separate ways and they wouldn't have made the choice otherwise. Like tarn said, your life is not ruined, you're just in a rough patch right now. But look at it like this, your attitude will affect this too, and being there for both of your parents will only help, instead of shutting them out completely. Keep your chin up and remember, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

Alabama · June 2011

My ex husband and I divorced when my oldest was 9. We'd done our best to keep the arguments and such from affecting our daughter or bringing her into the middle. We went to marriage counseling and tried everything to try and stay together for her sake. Nothing worked. I waited as long as I could so that she would be old enough to understand that the divorce was in no way her fault. And until the day we decided to divorce and told her, she didn't know we were having major problems, so it came as a shock to her and I'm sure she felt much the same as you do now. I'm sure he felt I was neglectful, that I did very little to contribute to the marriage or family and probably wasn't very smart since these are things he told me on almost a daily basis, to the point that I started to believe him and my self esteem plummeted to the point I considered that everyone might be better off without me. On my side, I lost all respect for him when he lied and sold our daughter's horse at auction without talking to me and I thought he was a scam artist and manipulator with his only goal to try and get rich through scheming and scamming. Getting a divorce was a very hard thing for me to do because it hurt my daughter so much, but for my sanity, I needed to get it and get away from him. The benefit to her was a mother and father who were happier and better able to be happy with her. To this day, my ex and I can barely stand to talk to each other, and don't at all now that she has graduated high school and joined the Air Force. However, I believe that the divorce was a good thing for her in the end and it may be for you as well. She had two parents who were focused on her and how she was doing, instead of being distracted with tearing each other apart verbally. She grew up into a very self confident young lady. Divorce certainly didn't ruin her life, though she thought it would at the beginning, so just hang in there and let your parents work things out for themselves and things will probably get better.

Kaley1 · June 2011

I'm so sorry. It's not your fault, don't ever ever ever think that. Everything will be okay. (:

Horsegirl210 · June 2011

Thanks (:

Kaley1 · June 2011

Anytime. (:

Astronomy · June 2011

I understand how your feeling. My parents divorced when I was 11, then remarried when I was 12. Then they divorced again a year later. Amazing, right? Now their back together. Again. Sometimes I wonder. But as it turns out, I found out the reason why they get back together so many times is for me and my brother. After all, they were quite scared when I threatened to commit suicide and fell into a depression. But after seeing a psychiatrist, I found out that I'd rather them stay seperate and be happy than be angry and having fights at least five times everyday. Anyways, like everyone else was saying, it is not your fault in anyway. Its your parents decision, and sometimes its for the best. You seriously do not want to go through the same three divorces over and over again. xD

Horsegirl210 · June 2011

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Animalsaremything · November 2011

I am sorry!!

Garnet · November 2011

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