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So I guess violence IS the answer.

LaLa_LaruLaLa_Laru
edited February 2011 in Vent
Ok so...today I was practicing volleyball with my team. This girl, we'll call her Cacey, was really starting to irritate me. I'm team captain, and I appointed her as co-captain, so I guess she does have some power when it reguards the team..but the way she enforces the rules is SO irritating and SO rude. I have NEVER disrespected anyone on the team, and I expected that from her, which is the only reason why I chose her to be there if I ever wasn't (I chose her as co-captain when she was the sweet girl that we all love). So anyway, we're playing in our school gym today and these two girls aren't paying attention, so I say in a playful way "Hey girls! Where's the fire today!!" And I do my *start the fire* dance like the goofball I'am, everyone starts laughing, but not Cacey..she gets reall pissed off and yells at me to stop messing around and then she tells the girls to go home!! As if that's her right!! I say back (not yelling) that I was just trying to get their attention and I wanted to wake everyone up, and that the girls can stay. SO practice continues regularly and then I miss a spike (oh my goodness I missed a spike the world is going to end) and Cacey throws the ball that I missed AT MY HEAD!!! Everyone went silent and was like OMG. I couldn't help myself..I picked up the ball and threw it back at her face, and she fell on the floor. Then I was like OMG I'M SO SORRY!! And I ran up to her. I helped her up and she pushed me away then stormed out of the gym. I felt bad..I never turn to violence and I was surprised at myself. I'm one of those people that laugh when a ball accidentally hits me in the head while we're playing or if someone accidentally steps on my foot. I have NEVER done something like that before. My coach yelled at me when she came back into the gym and isn't letting me play in the next game, while cacey gets to be captain for a little while. I know I was in the wrong (partially)...but c'mon??!!?? Is that fair!!??!? It's not like I tackled her and punched her and it's not like she's innocent. I've apologized to her, and she's spit on my feet. :shock:

Comments

  • JellybeanjoeJellybeanjoe
    115.70.103.87
    Violence is never the answer. To be honest, in my opinion, you deserved the punishment the coach gave you.<br><br>Yes Cacey was provoking the situation, however you have to take it apon yourself to be the bigger, better person. Throwing a ball in someone's face on purpose? That's stooping to their level. You're a captain of a team. That's not the sort of behaviour you should be doing yourself.<br><br>Once the situation cools off, I suggest talking to the coach about what happened. Admit you were in the wrong, and that you understand that now, but talk about what could be done in future similar situations.<br><br>If you can't talk to the coach, then get your head around the fact that if you're faced with that situation again, be the bigger person and walk away. Take your concerns to someone higher. Next time you might not just knock someone to the ground. Next time you might seriously injure someone without meaning to. Is that really better than swallowing your pride and anger and walking away?
  • LaLa_LaruLaLa_Laru
    69.171.161.45
    Actually I did talk to my coach. She said she was talking to the rest of the girl's on my team and she didn't know that I wasn't the one to throw the first blow. I'm not getting that punishment after all. I understand that I shouldn't have stooped to her level and I understand that violence shouldn't have been used, I won't be using it again. Cacey is no longer co-captain and she isn't playing in our next game, it's up to her now if she even wants to be on the team anymore. I don't get to play in the next game either, but I'm still captain, and the girl's on my team still love me and look up to me. They were giving me praise for what I did and I TOLD THEM NOT TO. Then I publicly apologized to Cacey in front of everyone and I told her that I shouldn't have did what I did and that was a low for me. She accepted my apology and told me she was sorry too and we hugged (yes, a little elemantary-ish but still, we had to show that we still loved each other :) We had an awesome practice re-do thingy and the situation is alomost non existent. Situation OVER. None of us will be bringing it up again. I don't think I need to get my head around anything, I really hope there isn't a next time but if there is...I know what to do. Thanks though :)
  • JellybeanjoeJellybeanjoe
    115.70.103.87
    I'm glad you worked things out :)
  • LaLa_LaruLaLa_Laru
    69.171.161.132
    Me too! :) I didn't really mean what I said in the title. I was in a fit of anger and I didn't even realize what I was saying until I posted it and couldn't edit, I'll be sure to watch what I say here :shock: . Thanks for replying and giving your opinion though!
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