Too much to handle...

Braeton · February 2011

Recently my friends and I have noticed one of our other friends is remarkably thinner. We knew she was just on a diet, so we pushed it aside. I probably would have realized something was going on, if it weren't for our schedules. Since we were little kids, me and this girl (let's call her Suzy) have been BEST friends. This year, Suzy and I have absolutely NO classes together. And we started drifting apart. She got put into all the classes with people outside of our little friend group, so she hardly hangs out with us anymore. I mean, we're still really good friends, just not as close. Like we don't go to each other's houses anymore, but we talk at school. And that's why this is killing me. If I could have just reached out to her more, I know I could have done something. Her parents got divorced last year too, which has been extremely hard on her. And her father is very controlling about when he gets to have her (when most of the time she really just wants to be with her mom). So anyways, Suzy and I would always have our little venting/ranting talks together. But now, I'm best friends with other people. To make a long story short, she told us today that she was missing last period. My other friend (let's call her Lucy), noticing how much she has been going to the doctor so much lately asked "Suzy, why have you been seeing so many doctors?" She replies "Well...I have a bit of a problem." Lucy then asked "What kind of problem?" Suzy replies "I'm anorexic..I've lost 30 pounds over the last month. I was on a diet, but I got a little obsessive." She says this with a straight face, maybe even a bit of a smile. It's SO like her. She always puts others before herself. She probably would have told us if it weren't for Lucy because she wouldn't want us to worry about her. It tears me apart knowing that maybe if we had more classes together and if we hung out more, I could have done something about it. I was there for her, hugging her as she cried when she told me her parents got divorced. Things are different now. It breaks my heart knowing I wasn't there for her this time. And I'm scared to death for her, I don't know what to do. If you have read all this, I really appreciate it, and I appreciate anything you write back (especially if you have been in a situation where you friend had an eating disorder).

Braeton · February 2011

Corrections.. When I said "she told us today that she was missing last period." I meant to say "she told us today that she was missing last period BECAUSE OF A DOCTORS APPOINTMENT." Also when I said "She probably would have told us if it weren't for Lucy" I meant to say "She probably would'NT have told us if it weren't for Lucy" Sorry about that

iluvdogs111 · February 2011

I'm sorry....that's terrible. Eating disorders are so sad. Now, just support her and hope all goes well. And don't blame it on youself. There probably wasn't much you could have done anyways.

RoyalRaccoon · February 2011

People can recover from anorexia when given the proper treatment, and support, so there is hope, especially since she is seeing a doctor. Just always try to help her see the positive side of life, and if possible you should try to educate yourself about the disorder, so that you can better understand how she is feeling, and what to avoid saying around her that could be taken offensively. Above all, don't blame yourself, because it's not your fault. I'm just glad you are so concerned for her, and recognize she is ill and in a dangerous place. I've come across some very ignorant people that think eating disorders are choices, when in reality they are legitimate mental disorders. My mother has an eating disorder, and I've seen her insulted so many times throughout the years of my life that I'm disgusted by how cruel some people can be.

^Oriyana^ · February 2011

My sister had an eating disorder when she was in college. I think the hardest thing for me to accept was that other than show her I loved her no matter what and was there for her, there really wasn't anything I could do. Don't blame yourself for distance growing between you and your friend, the best thing you can do is let her know you're there for her now. Eating disorders have both physical and mental roots. It's important that your friend go see a counselor who can teach her to conquer it. Just be the best friend you can be.

Braeton · February 2011

Thanks guys I really appreciate the support : )

Braeton · February 2011

Just updating those who were concerned, she is seeing a team of doctors and they have said she has not lost any weight the last couple of days and is making great progress! I'm so happy for her and I'm glad everything is turning out well so far : )

iluvdogs111 · February 2011

Good! Hopefully she will keep getting better!

EmmeZoec · February 2011

sorry to hear about it but try cookies cookies and milk solve every thing umm now i want a cookie just eat cookies together and then you will be closer and a she willl gain a little weight and not be anorexic

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