Just own up to it.

Cybergirl · December 2010

This is slightly long, but I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read it. I needed to tell someone. Okay. So I have been friends with this girl for 12 years. 6 years ago, we had a big thing. She turned all my other friends against me(We were young) and I was constantly made fun of. I was also the victim of severe emotional abuse for an entire school year from people who used to be my best friends. I couldnt understand how people could be so cruel or why they all of a sudden hated me. I went home from school every day and cried. I was completely friendless. It was absolutely horrible, and I hope no one ever has to experience this. Well one day, she pushed me to the breaking point, and I pulled her hair. Not even hard. And she freaked and told the teacher, and I got yelled at, and I got in trouble. I tried to explain why I did it but the teachers werent interested. I was devestated that people who were supposed to help didnt even care. Because of this, I can barely turst people. I honestly can count on one had the people I trust, and I dont even trust them completely. I now have extremely low self esteem. I also have had to and sometimes still have to battle with depression. Well, I was just playing around with this girl the other day, and I jokingly pulled her hair. She said "Didnt you already learn your lesson about pulling my hair when we were in _ grade?" I just stared at her. She then went on to say "Seriously, I made you who you are today, where would you be without me?" I replied, "Oh, dont know, maybe I could tust people and Id like myself." She replied with "Oh, grow up. You needed me to do that. You deserved it." I was utterly speechless. I nearly shoved her out of her chair and started punching her. If other people werent there, I know I would have. I cant believe she would say that. NO ONE, and I mean no one, should EVER have to suffer through emotional abuse like that. EVER. End of story. And she said I "needed" and "deserved" it. She sees nothing wrong with what she did. She changed my life for the worse, and is fine with it. What?! I dont even know what to say right now. Just freaking own up too it, apoligize(Which all my other friends involved in this have done, and were perfectly fine now.), and lets get over it. Because if you ever say something like that to me again, I will not hold back, and you couldnt even imagine whats going to happen.

RoyalRaccoon · December 2010

There is nothing worse than people so vain they can't see how much they hurt others. My advice would be to stay away from her. You shouldn't have to go through that, no one should. The last thing that needs to happen is a physical fight, or you being mentally beat down any further, because in the end it's just going to hurt you more than it will hurt her.

Celia_1234321 · December 2010

PrinceSushi wrote:

There is nothing worse than people so vain they can't see how much they hurt others. My advice would be to stay away from her. You shouldn't have to go through that, no one should. The last thing that needs to happen is a physical fight, or you being mentally beat down any further, because in the end it's just going to hurt you more than it will hurt her.

i completely agree, i have distanced myself from a few of my friends for the same reasons. It'd better for you to be away from her.

HollyWood · December 2010

I agree, Im still in high school im just happy I have 1 year left. I barely talk in school but the only people I do talk to is 6 of my friends and my boyfriend. I have girls that want to start trouble with me so they say stuff on websites and and basically try to spread rumors. I am not one to stand up for myself but this year I have learned not to let people walk all over me. Those girls I just completely ignore, they get mad and they stop what they are doing because I have shown it doesn't effect me. Maybe you should try the same thing. If she says anything to you just act like you didn't hear her of just walk away. She will give up if she knows that it doesn't effect you.

HollyWood · December 2010

(I cant edit my post so I thought id share my favorite quotes) "you just got to shake off the drama and prove to them you are better then they think you are."

Mileysmybaby · December 2010

I know someone kindof like this but not AS bad. She admits shes spoiled,mean,rude,etc. But yet she acts like shes my BFF yet normally she is VERY rude to me Im just not mean back. I know what you mean about wanting to punch someone like that believe me! Just ignore and -try- to be nice to her LOL thats what I -try- to do xD

Cybergirl · December 2010

I know if I fought her nothing good would come of it, and I dont like being in fights anyway, but sometimes you just snap. I cant get away from her for about another year and a half, but after that well see what happens (:

Maxxy · December 2010

I've been through that. A girl with incredibly low self esteem succeeded in turning half the school against me, harassed me all summer (phone calls from different numbers, attempting to (jokingly?) attack me with her car, etc). It got so bad that I dropped out this year. The internet is amazing at spreading the sickest rumors, so that one girl is very able to ruin your life. Just have nothing to do with her.

Bookryder1 · December 2010

I had a similar experience, but i never was very popular, I had a few good friends and was fine with that, I lived by the old adage that a few good friends are better than an army of people who dont really like you (I have PLENTY of those, because my family is wealthy but I dont walk around FLAUNTING my wealth.. like everyone else does and preppy private school) I have always been in private schools, so i know you may think that its automatically better, yeah no, its not, we just pay to go there... anyway now that thats out... theres this girl that is just purposely annoy and attempt to control people, you always could tell who were her friends because she would dictate their lives! I had a very good friend there and this girl "caught" my friend and started dictating everything, I immediately saw a difference. This Girl emotionally abused my friend and said that she wasn't allowed to be my friend because I wasn't easily controlled. Eventually this friend ended the relationship and came back to reality but its a similar. and, to repeat what you said EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS NEVER OK!!!!!!!!!!!!! p.s. you can tell im a writer..... I never know when to stop...

KittKattize · December 2010

I had similar problems throughout my last year of high school and when I started college. I literally had one friend in high school and she couldn't even stay at school for lunch. I ended up having to spend my time alone being picked on. It started the year before, but I had so many friends that it didn't bother me so much. Then all of a sudden people started spreading rumors about me and all my friends ditched me except for one. Every guy and girl in the school managed to pick on me in some sort of way. Whether it was about my weight, the fact that I was a band geek, the fact that I couldn't buy nice clothes, I dressed like a boy, my relationships... I had 0 self esteem. Not just low, but absolutely none. I did graduate though, I couldn't let myself drop out. I even got accepted to college in a construction course. Although, being the only girl in a class with 30 boys made things difficult. If I passed my exams, well lets just say that they said some really nasty things about me and leave it at that. I dropped out of college, started working full time, went to counseling to deal with my depression and that's when I met him! I had just started a new job and I met my now fiance there. It was seriously love at first sight. He helped me through the last of my depression, helped me learn to trust again and just overall healed me. I got into plenty of fights while in high school and I agree they solved nothing and only made things worse.

Cybergirl · December 2010

Some people are just nuts and power hungry. Im sorry you all had to go through that too =\

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