Days like this make me miss...

CORY · August 2010

my real dad. Just to start this off. I know there are people out here that have it worse then me. but I'm being pathetic about it

Most poeple on here know that my dad was killed in a car accident when i was little. I was 4 almost 5. Was actually 2 days before my 5th birthday. It has been 9 years already. And my mom has a bf [recently he lost my respect to call him my step dad. there really not married yet so i don have to call him that yet anyway.] Lets call my mom's bf T [ill eventually get to his part of the vent

] Ive been thinking about my dad A LOt lately. I really don't know why. since it was back in April it was the 9 years

So what i have been thinking about my dad wont be able to see my graduate high school , or to walk me down the isle when/if i would get married, he never got to see me play sports . And then things happened today with the court case. So ill start off with that. So after my dad was killed working on the road for his job. The guy just basically drove away. But people who worked with him got the license plate number of the guy who hit and killed my dad. Then when they figured out who it was. He had a suspended license from drunk driving. So you would think he would get in lotsa trouble right? No he didnt. There was no law in place for suspended licensen and hitting and killing someone. [probably cause PA sucks -.-] He didnt get jail time . Well he did but thats cause he wouldn't talk to a judge. After the court hiring was over. He lost it. and we should get 2 mill. But we will never see that money. [thats what the lawyers told us.] But we also got what land he had. So the one land he had could easily sell for 300k-500k. and the other one could be around 50k-100k. But we wont see money from that either. Cause to get the land put into my mom's name it would cost us 6k. And we aren't rich and don't have that kind of money laying around to pay that. And then on top of that we will have to pay the tax the guy didn't pay for when it was in his name. and thats another $4500.80 to fork out on a piece of land we got awarded in court. So we will never get the money my dad would of made in the rest of his life. So all and all we wont get anything out of it but a new law made to protect people who were killed in a accident being the person with he suspended license. So please people learn how to drive and not hurt people. Cause bad driver's also killed my Uncle and my Cousin's Fiance's Dad. Now onto talking about T. He came home today and started yelling at my mom. [ive lost r Cause she was upset about the court hiring thing. She felt like she has been letting everyone down cause we wont get any money out of this. Cause we were promised we were going to move down to Arkansas eventually. Then they said they'd get me a horse [ive wanted one since i was a little] And her brother [my uncle lives down in Arkansas] has always wanted us down there. I also want to move down there really bad. Since he is the only family that My mom , brother and I have that cares. My mom's parents passed away when i was really young. Her other siblings dont care about us. On my real dad's side his parents dont bother with us anymore. And his siblings are too worried about each other and dont bother with us. so i really wish i could be close to my uncle

but 18hrs is the closes we will be to him for awhile still. Done with my vent. And thanks for reading this. Just wanted to get all of this out of my head. I don't have anyone to talk to about this in RL. So i just had to say it somewhere.

RoyalRaccoon · August 2010

I lost my father while young too. Let's see, it's probably been 9 years for me too. My suggestion would be to stop thinking about "what ifs," because they will only hurt you. If the man that killed your father has gone to trial, and has been punished or acquitted, then you have to move on from him. You shouldn't forget your father, never, but you shouldn't let yourself think about his death so much, or the scumbag that killed him, because it's not healthy, and that scumbag doesn't deserve another second of your time. Instead, think about what your father left you. I'm sure he left you great memories, and values you can use in life. I'm so proud of being my father's daughter, and I'm proud to use what he taught me in my life. If your mother isn't letting you down, then let her know that, because I'm sure she really needs to hear it. As for T, I wouldn't completely give up on him. Show him, or tell him you're not happy with how he treated your mother, so he knows what you will and will not accept, and try to figure our why he's so upset. Yelling is never a good solution, but so many people jump into using it, because they don't know what else to do. Maybe he's stressed out, because he knows your mother is thinking she's letting everyone down, and the only way he knew to react was to yell, because he thought it would get through to your mother...but I wasn't there, don't know him, and didn't hear what was said, so I can't say that's really how he felt, and why he behaved like that. You should also try to talk to your mother about your feelings regarding your father, or ask to talk to a therapist that works with children if it's too awkward. I had to go through therapy to get over my fathers death, and how much I hated my life, but thanks to the help I got just from talking to someone I was able to realize that I had to let go of my childhood, and I had to stop holding onto so many negative emotions, or it was going to destroy me. I'm sorry you've had to go through so much while so young, but good luck. I really hope that everything works out for you with time, and you can message me if you ever want to talk about something you can't talk about to RL people.

Shibagirl · August 2010

tiffer wrote:

my real dad. Just to start this off. I know there are people out here that have it worse then me. but I'm being pathetic about it Most poeple on here know that my dad was killed in a car accident when i was little. I was 4 almost 5. Was actually 2 days before my 5th birthday. It has been 9 years already.

Lost mine the same way, only when I was 8

CORY · August 2010

PrinceSushi wrote:

I lost my father while young too. Let's see, it's probably been 9 years for me too. My suggestion would be to stop thinking about "what ifs," because they will only hurt you. If the man that killed your father has gone to trial, and has been punished or acquitted, then you have to move on from him. You shouldn't forget your father, never, but you shouldn't let yourself think about his death so much, or the scumbag that killed him, because it's not healthy, and that scumbag doesn't deserve another second of your time. Instead, think about what your father left you. I'm sure he left you great memories, and values you can use in life. I'm so proud of being my father's daughter, and I'm proud to use what he taught me in my life. If your mother isn't letting you down, then let her know that, because I'm sure she really needs to hear it. As for T, I wouldn't completely give up on him. Show him, or tell him you're not happy with how he treated your mother, so he knows what you will and will not accept, and try to figure our why he's so upset. Yelling is never a good solution, but so many people jump into using it, because they don't know what else to do. Maybe he's stressed out, because he knows your mother is thinking she's letting everyone down, and the only way he knew to react was to yell, because he thought it would get through to your mother...but I wasn't there, don't know him, and didn't hear what was said, so I can't say that's really how he felt, and why he behaved like that. You should also try to talk to your mother about your feelings regarding your father, or ask to talk to a therapist that works with children if it's too awkward. I had to go through therapy to get over my fathers death, and how much I hated my life, but thanks to the help I got just from talking to someone I was able to realize that I had to let go of my childhood, and I had to stop holding onto so many negative emotions, or it was going to destroy me. I'm sorry you've had to go through so much while so young, but good luck. I really hope that everything works out for you with time, and you can message me if you ever want to talk about something you can't talk about to RL people.

Thansk Sushi. Your always helpful :] And I'm sorry about your dad also <33

NewfGirl wrote:

 Lost mine the same way, only when I was 8

Im sorry about your dad too <33 And looks like i wont have to worry about T anymore. He and my mom decided its better for them to not be together anymore. They also learned they stress each olther out WAY too much. So thats another reason. Cause they have been fighting a lot for the past 6mo - 1 yr. Oh and there is some GREAT news. The lawyers said they'll pay to put the money in my mom's name. And pay the taxes on the property. So the lawyers get to pay the 10k. [ but im sure we get to pay them back with the money we will get eventually xD] And someone offered 200k on the one property. So we'll get that money . Guess some good things happen after bad things happen? lol/

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