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MahgicIV · June 2010

I never really vent. To anyone. Right now, I feel like I should try. Cause maybe, just maybe; it might help. I am seventeen. Graduated. Way to mature for my own age. Eleven is the age when I had to start taking care of myself. The way I can remember that is cause that was the year I moved again. That was my fifth move. I had to work for things, teach myself in middle and high school, and was very sheltered. To this day I believe that was the reason I grew up way to fast. I guess long story short: I've never gotten along with my parents, just because I didn't grow up with support and a healthy home life style. I haven't lived in one place for more then three months since I was eleven. I'm all independent and not a very talkative emotional person. For reasons, I am moving in with my sister who has seven kids. (Yes, I was the surprise baby out of my sibblings.) My parents are so eager that they're even helping me pack my room. The real heart break is my best friend passed away a week ago. Then my horse I've had since eleven just went to a new home two days ago, and I still forget she's really gone until I walk half way to my barn to go visit her or feed her. Also having trouble with a guy. i didn't realize how much I cared about him, until we had this little problem. I'm afraid I fell for him and I'm afraid I've already decided I won't let him go. He wants to go in the military, and he has wanted to know if I'll be waiting for him when he comes home. I don't know how to think about any of this, just that I want it. I feel like I'm ripped in half then ripped again then stomped on and shattered. I think it would help if I could cry. Cause I can't. No matter how hard I try. Beh, and I'm sure the water works will start out of no where. Thanks for baring with me. That actually feels kinda better.

BuffyBoarding · June 2010

I've been through most of that. And i know how hard it is. I wish i had advise that might help, but ehh all i know is be strong. Nothing comes easy in life. I have a quote, but it's not forum appropriate =P Just look at the bright side, you're alive. your boy's alive. your sister and her kids are willing to let you stay. it could always be worse.

RoyalRaccoon · June 2010

You sound a lot like me. I personally feel like I never got to be a teenager because I was, and still am, forced to be an adult. I'm really sorry about your best friend and horse. I know the feeling of going to do something, and then half way through realizing that you can't anymore because they aren't there anymore. As for the guy, do what you honestly think you can commit to. Be honest with yourself, and don't force yourself into anything. I believe someone on here has a significant other in the military, so I hope they come forward to share their experiences with you. Here is what my mom tells me: "If things hadn't happened the way they did, you wouldn't be the same person you are today." It helps me a lot when I think about how things could have been(better) if things were different, but then I realize I could have turned into someone completely different. I wouldn't want to be someone else, and I hope it's the same for you because you're a great person.

BuffyBoarding · June 2010

Vi and Stet have been together for a couple years now and he's in the Navy. I've got a boyfriend in the Navy right now also. jmCalloway's husband is in one branch [don't remember which]. It'll all about committing to one person and knowing you can't be out -partying/dating/hanging out- with other guys. It's lonely. It's stressful. and in all honesty, It sucks. But I wouldn't trade it. I trust the guy I'm with, we haven't been together all that long at all, but I trust him to be faithful when he's gone. It's all a mindset, and you have to be ready and willing to deal with the stress, the tears [you will cry trust me] the fear of what happens if they don't come home, being honest, you have to be ready for anything because as unsure as life is, it's worse when they're gone. But it can also be rewarding and if you love/really care about someone and can commit, you can do it =D

Hibachi · June 2010

Wow, I am very sorry for your losses. I'm not in the same situation, in fact quiet the opposite. My parents work so hard to build a relationship with me, that I just want them to leave my alone. -.-; I've been sheltered all my life, I was always afraid to ask to go out with my friends because my parents always over reacted, I've kept all my relationships I have ever had in the closet because I was afraid my parents would once more freak out - my current relationship is the only one they have ever known about and it took me 6 months before I told them that me and Jeffrey where dating. If you need anyone to talk to feel free to PM me.

Kazuko · June 2010

My boyfriend-turned-husband is in the Navy as well. It's tough, even married, living on base with him. It's probably one of the toughest things I've done, I won't lie, and moving to live on base with him has only made it so much harder because I know NO one here, but if you really do care about this guy, the ends with justify the means. It takes work, it's tough, but it's worth it in the end, if you can both work together and live without each other for a while. My husband and I think of it like this: we don't get to spend much time with each other, but the time we DO spend together now means so much more than it ever could've. After all, how can you miss him if he doesn't go away?

MahgicIV · June 2010

Thanks everyone, I do look at it as the situation could have been worse. Then what I am today was from what made me in the past. All the advice about military dating/marriage is very helpful. I know it'd be worth it and I'd def do it any day cause I care a lot about him. He's been hinting around about how I'd feel about the military life, so I'm preparing for the possible pop question, but then again I don't think I need to prepare. I understand what I'm getting myself into and whats to come. X) thanks again.

TwlohasGSDs · June 2010

*pats on shoulder* I'm sorry for your misfortunes.

I hope you heal soon, Mahgic. :]

Kazuko · June 2010

I'd ask Vi or perhaps Buffy about dating military, as I married Vincent soon after he got out of bootcamp. xD Marrying into the military tho', well. That was chaotic. ._. I dunno if it's any different marrying BEFORE he goes into bootcamp, but I know marrying after is a pain in the rear. My marriage process went sorta like this: (April) Vincent asks Chaplain if we can get married July 4th weekend (May 12th) Commander tells Vincent "If you want to get married, it's got to be done this weekend. Your wife needs to be here by Friday. (May 13th) I fly to SC (May 14th) We get the marriage license, costing $80 (May 15th) We get married in the hotel room, costing $60 (May 16th) Vincent goes back to base. (May 17th) I fly back home. (May 19th) Vincent flies down to AZ (May 20th & 21st) I have FINALS. >_> Packing on my off time instead of studying. (May 22nd) We drive all the way down from Arizona to South Carolina with a big Pensky truck. (May 27th) We get to SC (May 28th) We move into base housing Then Vincent got a week off, before starting his classes. Now he's gone from 5:30am-8:30 or 9pm Monday-Thursday. Friday he gets home around 5-6pm, Saturday he has no classes, Sunday he leaces at 5am and returns about 8am. It's not easy, and it was super stressful. Definitely not all rainbows and roses. xD

MahgicIV · June 2010

o.o my gollly whizzzz. that sounds super stressful! I hope it was worth it though X)

Kazuko · June 2010

I like to think it was worth it. xD If you're adaptable, go for it.

Hibachi · June 2010

I've lived 8 hours away from my boyfriend the majority of our relationship. Luckily I am moving to Alabama next week, but in late July my boyfriend will be moving 4 hours away to go to college.

But, obviously, army life is harder - sticking to letters and an occasional phone call.

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