Oh? I didn't realize that it was fair that way...

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• MagicalHorsePonyDog

  April 2010 71.91.6.44

  Wow thats really unfair I'm REALLY sorry Vamp

  
• Aninda

  April 2010 68.59.247.41

  Hello! I know you don't know me, I just came back after breaking for a few years, so sorry about that >.< Jumping in with a completly fresh start this time. But I'm Aninda <br><br>For the record, I really didn't find this that jumbled at all. I was really quite impressed you could include so much information and still be fairly cohesive with it (although I'm pretty sure that's not the right word xD). I also apologize in advance for leaving out any letters in this, my keyboard is being moody today and expecting me to mash every key to it's limit.<br><br>As a fellow rider, I've also had a similar problem. I ride every Thursday evening (I just got back from it, actually), and the adult staff there finds me inexperienced due to a few mistakes I have made. It is very obvious by the way you talk that you are in no way experienced, and really know what you're doing. I think that's one of the hardest things to overcome, because things like mistakes and falls stand out so much more in people's minds than all the good riding you can do normally, particullarly if they don't watch you that often.<br><br>Mendi very obviously isn't giving you a chance, which is incredibly unfair to you. I know you already know this, I just really don't know what you could do about it. It is ridiculous for her to say that the two of you can never be left alone, he is obviously like a brother to you and it's not like she's caught you two showing any sort of that kind of interest for eachother before, so why should she think that?<br><br>That would GREATLY aggitate me to have someone laugh I my face after a fall. Sure, I'm not so graceful and I probably didn't do it exactly right, but what if I were hurt? And even if that's unlikely, atleast have decency enough to hold your tongue, that's fairly disrespectful!<br><br>Drew's mom sounds like one of those parents who is always glancing over their shoulder paranoid of the effect others will have on their children, always worried they will use or betray them. I've known some parents like that, it's not fun >.< I really wouldn't take anything she says personally, form here it seems like she is obviously irrational. It seems like she's trying to pull every reason she can to dislike you. Maybe she's also worried you will end up in a relationship with him? Perphaps she's scared to death of him dating and is trying to convince him out of it. I do't know, these are just ideas. Maybe next time you're over at his house you could talk to her, and try to let her get to know you better. Althog, then again, you might have been doing that from the start.<br><br>I hope things get better for you--your situations sound very frustrating! But I suppose it's something you just have to silently roll your eyes at and get through xD It's a good thing you know all of this isn't true, and are confident in yourself!<br><br>Hopefully you shall get that email soon.<br><br>And I apologize for the lenght of this, I get carried away as well xD

  
• Aninda

  April 2010 68.59.247.41

  Aninda wrote:

  It is very obvious by the way you talk that you are in no way experienced

  <br><br>I'm sorry! I meant to say INexperienced >.<

  
• CallyKats Dachshunds

  April 2010 71.126.46.72

  XD I think we'll get along perfectly haha<br>but anywho-yeah..when Drew came down while I was changing (jus taking my jeans off) and told me about how she yelled at him for my "inexperienced-ness" (lol) I was like..really? I mean, when I go ride there, I purposely (or Drew makes me lol) do things that I'm not experienced with, so that I have more experience with them and get better. I'm not going to just ride around trotting for an hour or something when I could be learning something new. I actually went along and asked Drew if he'd help me with barrels since I'd like to learn them for when/if I ask to show any of the horses at rolling hills. He told me about what leg I needed to kick with, when and why, and what to do when Toby didn't come around the barrel tight enough etc etc. he said I did pretty well for my first time ever doing something related to barrels or the pattern. and all in a pair of shorts with a rough saddle on XD even though I don't plan to go riding with a saddle and shorts on ever again haha<br>I had talked to his mother in the beginning..and then I just started not talkig to her so much because I felt the slight tension..I always say hi, bye and thank you still though, I don't normally see her so often anymore since my mum and dad have been taking us home or to the barn though.<br>yeah..and I actually find it rather odd, since that was the only fall that she knows about. I can normally hold on to a horse real good, not so great bareback, but I've really only ever slid off a horse, never actually fallen until -after- I stood on the earth for a second or two lol I really do hate when adults go on about how someone is so inexperienced..she told me that I wasn't allowed to lease Lucky or Superman for 4H either. so since there isn't a horse I'm allowed to ride available, I'm not in 4H this year..and the reason I'm not allowed to ride them is because Lucky gets hyper (I can deal with that) and Super only stops on a one-rein since his old rider pretty much ruined him..I could most definitly get him more sensitive and willing with his cues and such..I find it rather easy to do so too.<br>I'm thinking about talking to her about it..but if I offend her or piss her off I'm afraid that I won't be able to ride there anymore.. / which would make everything worse, because riding and helping out there has given me so much, on top of not costing me $20 an hour to ride like rolling hills does. e.o

  
  
• Aninda

  April 2010 68.59.247.41

  Ouch, saddle with shorts! I must say I've never dared to try it xD<br><br>That's awesome! I love learning new things too, it totally beats just loafing around. You're a hard worker who puts a lot of effort into riding and learning to ride different styles, I really don't understand why she thinks she can call you inexperienced. It's quite silly.<br><br>I understand that, I hate that awkward tension when I'm talking to someone. But you're always polite, so I don't see what the problem is. Silly mothers >.<<br><br>That is weird that she thinks to judge you like that. I've only slid off a horse as well (and been thrown off once xP) and it would really tick me off if she thought SO less of me because one of those few times. It's simply not fair, ecspecially when you work so hard. It's ridiculous she won't let you lease a horse, when you can obviously handle it. Sure, horses like that can be a bit of trouble sometimes, but you just have to work with them, which you're more than willing to do. Is there any way you could try to show her that you're a hard worker, and that you can handle it? I know what you mean about talking to her, it could help. But if she did get upset, the cost of lessons really adds up (I've been there xP), and of course you want to keep riding! I don't really know what to say, it's a very sticky situation, and I'm sorry you have to be caught up in all of this

  
• Minx

  April 2010 216.60.166.126

  Vamps... your just gonna have to bite your tounge and take this mess.<br>You -ARE- getting to ride for free and id be thankful for that...just until you get your own horse *shelby is still for sale ~_^* <br>But anyways... just take the bad with the good with the riddin stuff <br>and when you become big and famous and have bunches of great horses<br>you can brag in Mendi's face and tel her she isnt experienced enough to ride your horses!<br>This also gives you a list of *how not to treat riding students* for when you become big and famous and teach horse riding. <br>Youll be very respectful to students! *nodds*
• CallyKats Dachshunds

  April 2010 67.171.91.56

  haha I gotcha Vampy XD<br>I mean..I'm tryin' to be a good girl and hold my tongue, because I am grateful that I'm getting to ride for free haha, but the laughing at me when I fell, then telling Drew I fell wrong when she already said she hadn't seen me fall just kinda ticked me off so much more than her talking about how inexperienced I am. I mean..I could understand if she was concerned about my "getting tossed over Toby's shoulder", but she wasn't. She laughed, said about how she wished she could have recorded it, and then came down to ask me if I was alright, when I could clearly tell that it wouldn't have mattered much to her if I was or not minus the fact that she'd be afraid of a lawsuit. e.e<br><br>Aninda:<br>I know! XD my legs are still a bit sore..but I mean, it's not near as bad as everyone makes it out to be..and i was in one of the worst saddles there is to ride with shorts on. haha Drew told me I was crazy and he was gonna laugh at me when my legs were all rubbed and stuff lol<br>I'm so happy that he's willing to teach me how to be good at barrels. ^^ I feel so far beyond lucky that he's my best friend, let alone a friend at all. <33<br>I might be going to a barn tomorrow to try out my first formal lesson XD It might be english (to see if I could ever deal with it haha) or western, just to know how experienced that someone else thinks I am.<br>I also plan on calling Rolling Hills tomorrow..I'm definitely going up there next weekend on saturday to ride for an hour or two, and hopefully talk to them more about volunteering on the weekends I'm with my dad, because it's only about 20 minutes from his house. I am a bit discouraged about it though..as their site says 1-2 business days to email back, and it's been over a week I believe. /<br><br>And I think I might persuade my dad to watch me and Drew ride for an hour or two, and he can discuss things with Mendi while both my dad and her watch me ride. I think I want to try free lunging, untacked in the round pen with Drew again though..I want to know that I can actually do it. XD I was doin' pretty good..until he balked, did a small crowhop and I just slid off into the mud haha<br><br>Oh, and Vampy-must you tempt me? XD<br>and yeah..I guess you're right, I'll sure as hell know not to discount my students for their riding experience until I can actually tell for sure. lol