Mom, just stop >.

SC`s Stars II · March 2010

I'm a "daddy's girl". No doubt about it. Today at softball practice I was doing INCREDIBLE in my position, and what does my coach do? He puts the most inexperienced, not-the-best player in my spot out of no where and sticks me in right field. Uh, hello?! Then our starting catcher, who thinks she the most incredibleawesomecoolestbestgreatest thing in the world, starts yelling and trying to be the big shot of the team during the scrimage against eachother. Really? I don't need you telling me that I need to move up in the box to bunt when I'm supposed to lay down a slap down first base when I'm not supposed to. I.Know.What.To.Do. So I get home and mom tells me to try on shorts to see if they still fit, since I'm going to South Carolina in about 2 weeks. I had literally just walked in the door all angry and trying to contain myself. Mom: "So how was practice?" Me: -grumbles under breath- "Bad." Mom: "Why?" Me: "Because Mom, it was just bad." Mom: "Would you tell me why it was so bad?!" (she has now raised her voice) Me: "BECAUSE! Coach made me mad, stuck -her name here- in MY spot and all -catchers name here- was YELL and boss everyone around!!! THAT'S WHY!" (I said this from the hallway, she was in her room.) I'm rather sick of everyone saying how their mom is their best friend. I'm a daddy's girl and I get along WAAAY better with my dad. -sigh-

CORY · March 2010

Aw D; I'm sorry. I am one of the people who has my mom as a friend cause i dislike step dad.

Cybergirl · March 2010

I dont see any harm in what your mom did. She just wanted to know why you were mad, but she probably shouldnt have raised her voice. I used to hate my mom when I was younger, but I love her now that Im older. Just give it time. You'll be friends soon enough. My parents are both my best friends now

lovefrompaige · March 2010

Sybhat3 wrote:

I dont see any harm in what your mom did. She just wanted to know why you were mad, but she probably shouldnt have raised her voice. I used to hate my mom when I was younger, but I love her now that Im older. Just give it time. You'll be friends soon enough. My parents are both my best friends now

I agree.

tarnish · March 2010

lovefrompaige wrote:

Sybhat3 wrote:

I dont see any harm in what your mom did. She just wanted to know why you were mad, but she probably shouldnt have raised her voice. I used to hate my mom when I was younger, but I love her now that Im older. Just give it time. You'll be friends soon enough. My parents are both my best friends now

 I agree.

I third xD. Lots of relationships with parents isn't too good around 12-15 or so. Its the whole growing up thing I believe. I definitely notice a change in behavior and thinking before and after that stage. Its hard to understand adults sometimes because the brain isn't fully developed until you're in your 20s.

RoyalRaccoon · March 2010

I know how you feel. I was a daddy's girl, and if he hadn't passed away I would probably still be one. I've always been prone to hang out with boys/men more than girls/women, but in recent years I have gotten closer to my mother. My mom was once reading a magazine that said you should never ask a teen how their day was, especially if they are in a bad mood, because they will talk about it if/when they want to. She actually pointed this out to me, and said that I'm always complaining about it. I told her that it's true, and that she should listen to that article, but she said she can't help it. I bet it's just a mother thing. I mean it's rational to worry if your kid is upset...but it can get annoying.

lovefrompaige · March 2010

PrinceSushi wrote:

I know how you feel. I was a daddy's girl, and if he hadn't passed away I would probably still be one. I've always been prone to hang out with boys/men more than girls/women, but in recent years I have gotten closer to my mother. My mom was once reading a magazine that said you should never ask a teen how their day was, especially if they are in a bad mood, because they will talk about it if/when they want to. She actually pointed this out to me, and said that I'm always complaining about it. I told her that it's true, and that she should listen to that article, but she said she can't help it. I bet it's just a mother thing. I mean it's rational to worry if your kid is upset...but it can get annoying.

What magazine was that?!:shock: I need to give that to my grandma XD Bless her heart but she loves to talk so much, that it just makes you want to stick duck-tape on her sometimes. . . Me and my mom (her daughter) agree

SunnyDaysDontLie · March 2010

My mom's actually my best friend, since I'm not exactly close to my dad anymore. He changed after my brother was born. But, she shouldn't have raised her voice, but the asking why you're in a bad mood is natural.

SC`s Stars II · March 2010

My main problem is that I'm an only child (well I do have a half sister but she's 14 years older than I am) so I don't really have anyone else to talk to except for my parents. SO it's hard for me to get along with my mom, she's rather controlling (and it's not just myself who thinks that) so I rely on my dad and my friends. My friends are everything to me. They are the ones I listen to and go to. My mom has just pushed me to the edge lately.

Cybergirl · March 2010

Im an only child too. I understand where you're coming from. Next time your mom makes you mad try to take a deep breath, just answer her in a way that you know will keep the situation under control, or if you cant do that then just dont answer at all. It works wonders.

SC`s Stars II · March 2010

Sybhat3 wrote:

Im an only child too. I understand where you're coming from. Next time your mom makes you mad try to take a deep breath, just answer her in a way that you know will keep the situation under control, or if you cant do that then just dont answer at all. It works wonders.

Trust me, I've tried everything in the book to try and keep everything calm. She just freaks over anything and everything and it's really starting to take its toll on me.

NickelbackLuver · March 2010

Maybe you're the one overreacting and thinking she freaks out too easily =P Teenagers have this funny way of blowing things out of proportion, and not thinking about what they would do in that situation. And you wouldn't know what you would do, until you're a mom. But, I think I would ask what's wrong too. When you push her aside like that by not giving her a detailed answer, she's obviously going to want to know more. It's because she cares about you and would like to know what's going on in your day. It's perfectly natural. I would love for my mom to be more pushy and ask more details, to be honest. I don't like just saying random things about my day, but if she asks, I'm more than happy to vent to her, or discuss my day. I love it, in fact. It gives me someone to confide in. I'm a daddy's girl too, but there are a lot of things I'd rather talk to my mom about. I also don't see why in your first post, you say you're sick of people calling their moms their best friend. What does it matter what other people think of their parents? Sorry, but, I'm not too big on the "lets complain about my caring parent!" vents :P

SC`s Stars II · March 2010

But the thing is I'm not the only one who says that she freaks out. Even my dad, HER husband says so. You really don't understand until you see her in action. She is very controlling. She used to be a police officer, so did my dad, which is how they met. My dad has even told me that she used to be much calmer. If you ask anyone who knows my mother to describe her, you would get the answer that I, or anyone else would give if you knew her. She's kind of notorious for it. Some of my friends are afraid to even talk to her. It's really all kind of a joke between my friends and I at this point. They know it drives me insane and we make humor out of it. But still...you really have to know her to understand what I'm talking about.

Jazz · March 2010

My dad and I don't get along, period. Nothing I say or do is ever good enough for him, he always wants something more or better. He doesn't listen to me or care about what I want. Ever. All those daddy's girls -- consider yourself lucky. My mom and I get along ok most of the time. She's more likely to actually listen and have a conversation with me, but really, both my parents pay very little attention to me. Everything -- and I do mean EVERYTHING -- is all about my younger brother and sister. To be honest, the way you worded it in your dialogue, you were being pretty rude to her. If I had kids, I'd raise my voice if they were talking like that to me. You're her only kid and she was worried about you. I would have done the same thing. She was just trying to make you feel better. You shouldn't get so upset.

SC`s Stars II · March 2010

In the dialogue I listed, I had walked in the house upset and it was obvious. When I told my mom "just because" it was in a tone that obviously meant I didn't want to talk about it and wanted to be left alone, and yet she raised her voice and practically demanded to know what was wrong. I'm not rude to my parents, I was raised ot be respectful, trust me being disrespectful or rude to my parents gets you in HUGE trouble considering they were both police officers. (jsut thought I would clear that up)

Sea Oats · March 2010

So wait.. practice was bad because someone else was in your position? Mk. As someone that has played softball and watched baseball first hand her whole life, I know everyone has a position they're good at, and they play those positions in GAMES. You said this was a PRACTICE, -just- practice. Meaning, you weren't losing a game because of her, and even if you did, so what? It's a game. It's not going to kill anyone. Some coaches switch positions around during practices because good or not, everyone deserves the chance to play a position if they want to, and they'll never be good at it if they never play it. Trust me, I know. I was always short stop, always. Coach put an outfield player in my spot and sent me to left field, and the other girl couldn't stop a ball and get it to first if her life depended on it, but she wanted to play that position just once and I didn't mind letting her. It's just a game, and practice makes perfect. Fact of the matter is, I think you overreacted about practice, or you're leaving something out. Then you overreacted again with your mom at home.. just my two cents.

SC`s Stars II · March 2010

I'm apparently leaving something out. Okay, so this is varsity practice. The girl put in my spot is basically a bench warmer and we were scrimaging as practice for our first game which is tomorrow. And it wasn't like she was just there for like ten minutes, she was there and...it's just hard to explain the situation with the team this year. So I'm just going to stop about the softball thing. It's a tough situation for myself, my team mates, and my parents. Our team has a reputation as the best in the state, we've won back to back titles and our coach wants to keep it. Anyways, just nevermind about this vent. I don't have time to make myself even more frustrated over this. It's hard to understand.

Jazz · March 2010

When I went to church today to volunteer in the Sunday school room, my favorite kid wasn't there, but did I throw a fit about it? No, because she's there almost every Sunday and I know I'll see her again next week. The world isn't going to end just because for ONE practice, someone else got to play your position. I think you need to understand that sports in general are not about winning, they're about having fun. And yeah, ok, it's good to win, but that's not the point of the sport. The coach was obviously trying to make it fun for everyone -- how much fun do you think that girl was having sitting on the bench all the time? If she wanted the chance to play your position, she should be allowed to. I think you're majorly overreacting, especially since this was just PRACTICE and you'll probably get to play your position in the game, and the one after that, etc.

Shibagirl · March 2010

You're not alone. I am not a mommy's girl either. Lol I do not get along with my mom, she can't focus on something for more than two seconds... I'm pretty much her opposite.. She's all bouncy and hyper and I'm.. Well.. Not lol.. I'm not really a daddy's girl though either.. My real dad died when I was younger and my step dad was mean to me and I don't live with him anymore because him and my mom got divorced. I think I'm a grandpa's girl since I don't see my dad and my mom's never home so I walk to my grandpa's house whenever I feel like it.. And unlike my mom he's actually supportive of me.. My mom doesn't believe I can actually show dogs.. But she's never there to actually see it... Yea I can't stand my mom at all. Lol

iluvdogs111 · March 2010

Actually, while I get along with both my parents, I proabably get along better with my mom. But, just like what was said before, you're was proabably just trying to be nice and find otu why you were mad. Hoqever, i get annoyed too when my parets continue to ask how my day went. "Hi. How are you? How did school go? What did you do? Did you have -insert name of random class- today? Do you have a lot of home work? What subject?" It's like......give me some time to wind down! I'll talk about my day when I feel like it!

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Mom, just stop >.

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