Is it Wrong?

DiamondPuppy0809 · March 2010

Is it wrong to feel totally betrayed by a best friend when she becomes friends with someone you absolutely hate? Happened to me. Why did she do it? She "felt like being her friend." Oh, thanks. Me and my feelings must be really important to you, right? -_- And to make things worse, she invites the girl on an "outing" (getting ice cream and hitting the mall with a bunch of friends) and tells me last minute so I can't get out of going. Her response to my anger at that? "Oh, at least -try- to act grown up and mature and ignore her." Mhm. So you're telling me I'm not mature or grown up? Gee, thanks. Maybe I'm overreacting. I don't know. I don't care. But... is it wrong to feel betrayed?

SunnyDaysDontLie · March 2010

Hahaha, I have a similar story with two girls from school. Only one didn't become best friend with the other. One is my best friend, and she hates the other girl who I've known equally as long.

Hibachi · March 2010

I JUST went through this, however, my "best friend" didn't know I disliked the girl, but she pretty much hasn't talked to me since she became friends with her. It's whatever now, I have other friends, and this isn't the first time she has ditched me. People like that just aren't worth it.

Magical · March 2010

The same sorta thing happened to me and I came home crying... I used to have 2 best friends we got in a big fight(the one best friend sided with me) A few months later my friend started talking to the one I had been fighting with and I felt TOTALLY betrayed

DiamondPuppy0809 · March 2010

I'm glad I'm not alone, but also sad for all who have experienced this. I've had a really hard time with it...

DiamondPuppy0809 · March 2010

Avla wrote:

It's whatever now, I have other friends

:) Well, this is how I'm trying to approach it. But, all my friends are friends with her, so it's going to be really hard because I'm still going to have to be around her and such. Which, also means, I'm going to have to be around that girl I absolutely hate.

Doggywhisperer · March 2010

I'm kind of like your friend in a way. I sort of have a group and then 2 slightly more "popular" friends. (by popular I mean they stand in big groups and trash talk, then trash talk each other behind their backs and start drama). My 2 aren't like that, so they cruise with me sometimes. I bring my friends over to my group sometimes, and they all seem a little weirded out. They're all kinda quiet and chatty, where s the other 2 are the ones that sing loud to their i-pods and say "who cares" to what others think. It can actually be really hard to be in between. For me, I fit in better with the 2 crazies, but not their other friends. So I have my group I love, but they don't like shopping and dancing like I do. Your friend is likely in between too.

Garnet · March 2010

That sorta happened to me.. only my "best friend" started dating this guy that i really dont like and fight with all the time. and now she never does anything with even after her and her boyfriend broke up. she hangs out with our other friend. it really gets hard to keep my mouth shut a lot of the time. but just find a few friends that think about it the same way you do and hang out with them. they willk now how you feel and will be able to hang out with you and you guys will have fun

DiamondPuppy0809 · March 2010

whisperer wrote:

I'm kind of like your friend in a way. I sort of have a group and then 2 slightly more "popular" friends. (by popular I mean they stand in big groups and trash talk, then trash talk each other behind their backs and start drama). My 2 aren't like that, so they cruise with me sometimes. I bring my friends over to my group sometimes, and they all seem a little weirded out. They're all kinda quiet and chatty, where s the other 2 are the ones that sing loud to their i-pods and say "who cares" to what others think. It can actually be really hard to be in between. For me, I fit in better with the 2 crazies, but not their other friends. So I have my group I love, but they don't like shopping and dancing like I do. Your friend is likely in between too.

She's not "in between." I've been her best friend for about 2 years and she used to be friends with this girl I hate, but then the girl did something (I don't know what it was) and then my best friend didn't like her. She called her names when she was around me and such... yet now she turns around and goes to be friends with her again. Two-faced is what it is, not "in between." She's definitely not like you. You sound like you just have different friends, ones you get along with more and others you don't. Which is completely fine. But my best friend chose to become friends with the girl I hate "because she felt like it." Because suddenly, out of the blue, this chick had called her pretty. Which, in my best friend's mind, means she's being nice and would be a good friend to have again, regardless all the names she's called her, etc.

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