Siblings Absolutely Suck.

Sea Oats · January 2010

And apparently so does my entire family. Right, so. My sister turned 13 on December 29th. Her friend Kristen turned 13 on the 22nd of January. They wanted to have a combined boy girl party, so my sister waited to have her party till after her friend's birthday. It was originally supposed to be on the 22nd, which was this past Friday. My mom had a place rented out and everything, and it was a church, so naturally my sister pitched a fit because that's 'not cool' (yea, joy, she's that type of girl). Nothing is ever good enough. WELL. My mom canceled those plans, and rented out another place. I knew the date would be changed, but last I heard, it was supposed to be this upcoming Friday, the 29th. Nope. Today, my mom decides to let me know all nonchalantly 'oh by the way, Abbie's party is on the 12th.' Meaning February 12th. Can anyone guess what's wrong with that? 'Mom, that's my birthday.' Her response? 'Oh, I know, but that was the only day this month I could get the building.' EXCUSE ME. Wait a second, I need to clean out my ears and have you repeat that so I know I heard you correctly. It is my seventeenth damn birthday, and instead of me getting to do anything -I- want to do, I get to chaperone my sisters' birthday party. She's already waited a month and a half to have her party, what is another few weeks? Why -my- birthday? So I don't even get a family dinner on my birthday because everyone will be preoccupied with setting up for her party all day, but I'm not supposed to be upset about that. My mom tells me I'm 'overreacting' and 'getting upset over nothing'. NOTHING? It's my last birthday at home, for God's sake! I've plans to go out of town for a show on my birthday since before Christmas. Know what she had to say about that? 'No you're not, Abbie's party is that day.' I DON'T REALLY CARE! I feel that what I want to do on MY actual birthday is more important than my sister's party on MY birthday. Maybe I'm being whiny. I don't really care. It's unfair and I'm pissed off. </angryvent>

Hibachi · January 2010

I agree it's unfair and your sister should have been happy with what she got, but that's the way siblings are. I always have been the first to blame because I am the oldest and I always had to do everything for them, and up until this pass summer I always thought it was unfair. (long story short, my younger brother and cousin got lost on a beach). And I have opened my eyes to how much I will miss them when I move out this summer, and I have been wanting to get out of my house for ever. Maybe set your party/going to a different show, on a different date.

Hibachi · January 2010

and maybe you can invite some friends to help you with your sisters party.

Sea Oats · January 2010

I don't mind helping out with my sister's party. I told my mom from the beginning I would, but that was when it wasn't on my birthday and I didn't have to cancel any plans for it. I had 2 of my best friends going out of town with me for the weekend for my birthday, and now we can't go because my mom is being difficult. It doesn't upset me that I have to help, it upsets me that I have to help on my birthday, that should be my day. On my sister's birthday my mom gave her $150 and took her shopping -all day- and I had to tag along. And my birthday gets to be all about her, too. That's why I'm upset. Not to mention, this is my last birthday living at home.

RoyalRaccoon · January 2010

I have a twin...and we were born on Christmas day. I feel your pain! Up until I decided to always celebrate my birthday on Halloween 3 years ago, I never had a party, had to eat Christmas food, watched other people open presents, fight with my brother over the cake, and I never got to have friends over(obviously they were celebrating Christmas with their family). Your birthday is supposed to be all about you, and it's supposed to be fun! Maybe you can move yours to something that works better for you? I chose Halloween because it's a fun holiday where you can wear costumes, eat horribly delicious junk food, and just have a good time.

Hibachi · January 2010

I can understand that, maybe you should ask your mom about doing something the day before/after/the next weekend? I understand it's your last birthday at home, but at least you get to celebrate birthdays, I know several of my friends never even had a birthday. And from the looks the date of this party isn't changing, unless you talk your mom into letting you go with your friends.

Sea Oats · January 2010

PrinceSushi wrote:

I have a twin...and we were born on Christmas day. I feel your pain! Up until I decided to always celebrate my birthday on Halloween 3 years ago, I never had a party, had to eat Christmas food, watched other people open presents, fight with my brother over the cake, and I never got to have friends over(obviously they were celebrating Christmas with their family). Your birthday is supposed to be all about you, and it's supposed to be fun! Maybe you can move yours to something that works better for you? I chose Halloween because it's a fun holiday where you can wear costumes, eat horribly delicious junk food, and just have a good time.

I have a twin too, but she's no longer with us. That kind of sharing isn't bad. That's how it's supposed to be. But my sister's birthday was almost a month ago, and instead of just going with what my mom had planned, she decided it wasn't good enough for her standards, so now my birthday has been bombarded. I guess I'm mad because she's disrespectful and refuses to do anything that doesn't reach her high expectations on every level.

Avla wrote:

I can understand that, maybe you should ask your mom about doing something the day before/after/the next weekend? I understand it's your last birthday at home, but at least you get to celebrate birthdays, I know several of my friends never even had a birthday. And from the looks the date of this party isn't changing, unless you talk your mom into letting you go with your friends.

I shouldn't have to cancel my birthday plans for her party. My argument is, I've had these plans since early December and that was all fine and dandy with my mom until she had to schedule my sisters party for that night. Another reason it upsets me is because I know the band, and this is one of the last shows of their second tour. We get a free stay and backstage because I know them, and I was excited about going.[/size[

Sea Oats · January 2010

PrinceSushi wrote:

I have a twin...and we were born on Christmas day. I feel your pain! Up until I decided to always celebrate my birthday on Halloween 3 years ago, I never had a party, had to eat Christmas food, watched other people open presents, fight with my brother over the cake, and I never got to have friends over(obviously they were celebrating Christmas with their family). Your birthday is supposed to be all about you, and it's supposed to be fun! Maybe you can move yours to something that works better for you? I chose Halloween because it's a fun holiday where you can wear costumes, eat horribly delicious junk food, and just have a good time.

I have a twin too, but she's no longer with us. That kind of sharing isn't bad. That's how it's supposed to be. But my sister's birthday was almost a month ago, and instead of just going with what my mom had planned, she decided it wasn't good enough for her standards, so now my birthday has been bombarded. I guess I'm mad because she's disrespectful and refuses to do anything that doesn't reach her high expectations on every level.

Avla wrote:

I can understand that, maybe you should ask your mom about doing something the day before/after/the next weekend? I understand it's your last birthday at home, but at least you get to celebrate birthdays, I know several of my friends never even had a birthday. And from the looks the date of this party isn't changing, unless you talk your mom into letting you go with your friends.

I shouldn't have to cancel my birthday plans for her party. My argument is, I've had these plans since early December and that was all fine and dandy with my mom until she had to schedule my sisters party for that night. Another reason it upsets me is because I know the band, and this is one of the last shows of their second tour. We get a free stay and backstage because I know them, and I was excited about going.

RoyalRaccoon · January 2010

That's how it's supposed to be. But my sister's birthday was almost a month ago, and instead of just going with what my mom had planned, she decided it wasn't good enough for her standards, so now my birthday has been bombarded. I guess I'm mad because she's disrespectful and refuses to do anything that doesn't reach her high expectations on every level.

It's her age. 13 is such a hard age. Your finally a teenager, but no one sees you that way. Maybe if you sister said it was alright, your mom wouldn't mind? Though I hate to encourage it, if I was in your position I would refuse to go unless a deal that worked for everyone was made.

Sea Oats · January 2010

PrinceSushi wrote:

That's how it's supposed to be. But my sister's birthday was almost a month ago, and instead of just going with what my mom had planned, she decided it wasn't good enough for her standards, so now my birthday has been bombarded. I guess I'm mad because she's disrespectful and refuses to do anything that doesn't reach her high expectations on every level.

 It's her age. 13 is such a hard age. Your finally a teenager, but no one sees you that way. Maybe if you sister said it was alright, your mom wouldn't mind? Though I hate to encourage it, if I was in your position I would refuse to go unless a deal that worked for everyone was made.

It's not even that my sister wants me there, actually she gave me clear instructions not to show my face at all. Which pisses me off even more. It's not just her age, at 13 I didn't think the world owed me everything. Maybe that's just me. She's just a jerk and she knows she can get away with it.

woodpecker · January 2010

Ok. That is just unfair. I havent done anything major for mine since I was about 4, but anyway, I am the same age as your sister and if I were her I would refuse to have my party on that day. It is also even more unfair if you have to help, when its your day, Especially as its your 17th and last at home.. What if you refuse to go, and go to your show?

Sea Oats · January 2010

woodpecker wrote:

Ok. That is just unfair. I havent done anything major for mine since I was about 4, but anyway, I am the same age as your sister and if I were her I would refuse to have my party on that day. It is also even more unfair if you have to help, when its your day, Especially as its your 17th and last at home.. What if you refuse to go, and go to your show?

It's what I plan on doing anyway. I was talking to my friend last night and she was like 'AHAHAHA, oh no. We're still going even if I have to smuggle you out of that party in a trash bag.' xD She was pissed too.

woodpecker · January 2010

If she does take you out in a trash bag, can she get a video of it? xD If its in the middle of the party... youre mum probably wouldnt notice.. but yeah.. I bet she was pissed as well.. I sure would be.. I mean, youve been planning for months! And sheesh, you dont get backstage things very often

whats the band called?

Sea Oats · January 2010

It's The Ready Set. :] Stephen Jerzak toured with them when I first met him, so that's how I know them. I text/talk to their drummer all the time and he's getting us in free and letting us stay in their hotel room for the night. There are actually a few bands I can get backstage stuff for often, and this is one of them. xD But the fact that I've already told him we were coming and our names are already on the venue list.. kinda makes me mad.

Kaley1 · January 2010

I feel horrible.

You should be allowed to ditch it and go with your friend. You're SEVENTEEN. Well, turning 17. She's 13. Just like my sister. >.< She's a little brat. Anyways, I hope everything works out.

sorry.

Cybergirl · January 2010

Pssh. Sounds like your moms being the immature one to me. If my kid whined because the place I rented wasnt good enough for them I'd cancel the whole thing and say 'Fine, pay for it with your own money then.' But maybe Im just a jerk? Thats rediculous, Wikkid. Im gonna come slap your mom and sister silly one day >.>

CORY · January 2010

:shock: :? Your sister is a jerk. I'm 13 and i didn't celebrate my birthday cause no one wanted to go but that's just something else. But your birthday is for YOU. Not her. If she waited that long already. She should be able to wait longer . I'm sorry..

mayday_parade-97 · January 2010

I'm so sorry! We were on a low budget on my birthday, so we couldn't do much I wanted either, meaning no gifts. I feel your pain

Kaley1 · January 2010

mayday_parade-97 wrote:

I'm so sorry! We were on a low budget on my birthday, so we couldn't do much I wanted either, meaning no gifts. I feel your pain

aww that stinks. *hugg*

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