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Wow. Didn't think you could be so selfish.
So basically, I have a cousin, she's pretty sound and all, or atleast that's what I used to think. Let's call her Jane.<br>Little back ground history, she and her brother[Ross] grew up with me and my sister, not in the same house but just a street away. So for the first few years of our life, lets say about 11 we were mega close and all like best friends ,brother and sisters. It was pretty sweet. I know alot of people who dont even know their cousins, but looking back, I feel blessed that i got to grow up with mine.<br>So anyways, skipping those 11 years of childhood memories, the good and the not so good takes us to about 5 years ago. We started high school, we made our own, different friends. I ddint like it at the time, bit upset that i didnt get to spend as much time with her and all, but now i know it was just part of growing up.<br><br>So, over the past five years we slowly and slowly drifted apart.<br>That brings me to today, I'm lucky if I hear from my couisn once a month, she still lives just a street away.<br>Despite lack of contact, i still knew what was going on in her life, my gran would regularly keep me and my family updated on all that was happening.<br>Just two months ago we were hit with terrible news. Ross was missing. He had been for three days.<br>Word doesnt usually get round that slowly where i live, small tightknit community, however Roos had a reputation for staying out late drinking and all the stuff, so not coming home one night was a normal thing to do. Three weeks passed and my family was torn apart.<br>I think that's when Jane started to change dramatically, but at the time it was acceptable to skip college because your brother was missing. I guess in a way, it was acceptable to start drinking as a way to cope.<br>But anyways, Ross was found, he is safe and well.<br>But Jane never returned to normal.<br>She's continued on a downward spiral, she now has the same reputation as her brother.<br><br>She's gone from a bright intellegent young woman, who loved school, loved to learn, loved to socialise to... a wreck.<br><br>Things have got so bad that she and Ross have been thrown out.<br>Her mother was coming home to a wreck of a house everynight. Dishes and washing everywhere, food on the floor. The walls. The ceiling. All the lights on, heating up at full, straighteners and curlers plugged into the wall and still on despite no one being home.<br>I dont blame her. I'd do the same.<br>They are not wealthy, they dont have money to throw away carelessly. She works from 7-7. 12 hours a day 5 days a week to provide a roof over her kids heads, provide them with food and water and clothes. Yet they practically throw it back in her face.<br><br>So yes, they were thrown out at the start of last week I think, the same time our aunt was in labour in hospital. Jane knew this, but it didnt stop her.<br><br>I recieved a text message a few days ago<br>Something along the lines of, "thanks to the family that actually care for me and ross. We finally know who really loves us and who doesnt. but dont feel guilty, i am strong enough to look after both of us. we are not your family anymore, you clearly dont give a crap about us and never offered us a place to stay even though you knew we had been thrown out. Live your happy sheltered life, but just be sure to think of us living on the street or in a hostel with the junkies."<br><br>I kinda of expected it tbh, i hadnt talked to her in ages and understood why she was angry.<br>I mentioned to my gran about the text, she said she had got the exact same one. <br>what aggrivated me the most was when i mentioned it to my aunt.<br>Jane had sent the exact same text to my aunt. Who wasnt even aware they had been thrown out. Who was in labour for almost three days. Who almost died during the birth and who almost lost her child not once but TWICE.<br><br>How the hell can you be so damn selfish? Jane is aware of what happened to our aunt and the child. She KNEW they BOTH almost died.<br>Yet she STILL sends a text basically saying 'feel guilty for wanting your child to live instead of giving me and ross a place to stay.<br><br>I am SO damn furious. I wanted to kill her earlier.<br>Does my aunt not have a right to put her child before her niece and nephew? Does she not have a right to worry about whether her and her unborn child will live for die? and not need to worry about whether her niece and nephew will have somewhere warm to sleep that night?<br>According to Jane she doesnt. According to Jane, her and Ross should be first priority.<br><br>But why should we do anything for them? Why should we give them a place to stay? It's not like it is our fault they are so disrespectful and so careless of other people. It's not our fault their actions and words caused them to get kicked out. So why should we help them? Because they are family? But if they cant respect their own mother and their household, why should we trust them with ours?<br><br>And she claimed we should have offered them somewhere to stay the first few days after they got kicked out. We didnt even know until about friday. Where were THEY in the days between? It's not like THEY came to use to ask for help. They expect us to go to them. Why the hell should we?<br><br>Next time I see Jane I will hit her. I wont regret it. Ever.
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