Parents..(Not a teenage agnst rant xD)

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

I believe this is clean, but if anything in here is inappropriate, OPs, please delete. If you're going to judge the decisions I've made in my life, this isn't the vent for you. So, in order to understand this whole rant, you'll need some information on my family and how I grew up. So basically, I was raised in a very strict household. My parents are very conservative. We went to church every Sunday, ate out only once in my lifetime, tended to our farm, and lived under the motto "Children should be seen, not heard." Overall, I was totally okay with this, I listened and did what they wanted. I mean, occasionally, when I could get a hold of it, I might've snuck Prince or Michael Jackson or various other "unacceptable" music into my closet. But, other than that...I was good. All along, though, I was planning my life, the way I wanted to live it. So, at 16, I was emancipated. (My parents no longer had legal rights, I was basically a legal adult) This wasn't a hate or anger thing, I just needed freedom.. To get a job, my driver's license..All of that. None of which they would let me do. So, I moved out, and shared an apartment with my best friend. Soon enough, her brother and I were "madly in love" xD (I'm not really that romantic...hahaha) He's older than me and has a daughter. (Please, don't judge. Thanks) She's the most amazing little girl and I love her to death. It's like she's my own child. My parent's accepted him and were very good to all of us. So, as some of you may know...He recently went off to be in the army. I decided that instead of having him leave his daughter with his parents, I would take care of her until he got home. Again, my parents were fine with this. So, together Aeden (my boyfriend) and I decided that we would raise Niaa (his daughter) to be allowed to become who she wanted. We have exposed her to every religion possible, showed her the beauty in all of them. Exposed her to art, music, all of that. We even let her paint her own mural in her bedroom. (she's 3) My parents...hate it. They say she'll grow up confused and won't ever be able to decide who she wants to be. "That's the parents' job [deciding who she should be]." So, last weekend, they took her... I was scared out of my mind as to where she could be. They took her and showed her their life, they called me and said they wouldn't bring her back until I agreed to give her one choice on who to become. OF course, I was steaming mad and was able to get Niaa back after a few hours. But I just though that it wasn't their place. To take her, or to tell me how I should raise her. She's really not even related to them! AHG. I could kill them. -.- If you read all that, o.o you need a cookie!! ;D

CallyKats Dachshunds · August 2009

-grabs cookie and sniffs it..then eats it and brushes the crumbs away- If I were you-I woulda broke the door down to their house and forced them to give the child back. Legally, they have absolutly no say in what you do, wear, how you act, how you take care of the child, what you with/do to the child (unless you abuse, which I doubt you do). Therefore, you also could have called the police and report them for kidnap (which is another option I would have thought about before destroying their front door/windows) Mi mum isn't nearly as strict as you parents were from what I read, but mi mum thinks that she can control who I turn out to be too. I told her from the start that she can either get over it and let me be who I'm going to be, let me figure things out on mi own, or I'll move in with mi dad. -shrugs- She's terrified of that, she knows that I'm old enough to decide who I live with, she doesn't want me to live with him though. Coz he's like me/I'm like him; laidback, but focuses on whatever it is that we're doing. But yeah, that was ridiculous of your parents. :? And I have no clue how you lived like that in the first place. :shock: I would have been huddled in a corner decomposing or something.

Marseilles · August 2009

Personally I think you couldn't have done anything better. Every child has the right to become who they want to be, they should have the right to make their own decisions and their own mistakes. I am in no way wanting this to sound offensive but your parents need to really grow up in this respect as they can't try to run yours and that little girls life! It is completely unfair. Stick with what you feel is right and don't try to let anyone else run your life for you

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

vampeh-mmm, agreed. Most of the time I wonder how I made it out alive xD But I wouldn't of taken legal action... Mainly because I don't have any legal rights over her either. :X Aeden just trusted me with her. His parents are the same way as mine.. Not quite so outspoken though. Hopefully they don't team up. O.O Mars- hehe, can I call you that? Why thank you :oops: We're trying really hard to not clone ourselves in Niaa xD And no offense taken, dear. My parents DO need to grow up.

Hibachi · August 2009

My parents aren't as strict as yours was, but we went to church every sunday like you did, we have our chores, etc. I am actually glad that they told us that this is the way of the house, they are the reason I am in this world, they have kept a roof over my head and they are the authority in my life, sometimes parents just wants what's best, and I am sure your parents had good intentions in some areas, but they did get a little carried away about the music and "unclean" things. On the other hand taking a child...that's illegal, and completley wrong. I would have called the cops, it's a good thing you got her back. I think you should raise your child how you want to, it's your child anyways.

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

Avla- I agree with you.. Which is why I did what they wanted up until I was 16. I do love my parents very much and understand that they can only do what they think is right.. But agreed, taking her was a little out of line. I did let them know that I was very upset by that.. But again, calling the cops could've gotten me in trouble too. And Niaa taken away. :'(

CallyKats Dachshunds · August 2009

Well, as long as their parents told them that both they and their son (the father) entrusted you with the child, I doubt that they would have taken her away. :? But, then again, maybe they would have..and that wouldn't have been good.

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

Yeah, I'm not quite sure how that would've gone down.. I do have written proof that I am her "Legal Guardian" While Ae is not around.. But I'm trying not to take chances. haha

Heartless Riku · August 2009

Wow! Andi! I'm still in shock in what your parents did. Where were you when they took her?

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

Me too. xD They took her to church, to buy new clothes, and then ended up doing chores around their farm.

Heartless Riku · August 2009

wow! wait.....they made her do chores?? Or did you parents only do that?

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

Nope, they made her work. Just like they did to me and my siblings. Erg.

Heartless Riku · August 2009

oh wow!! At the age of 3 and they are already making her do chores!! :shock: I think when I was 3....I was probably running around the apartment like a little hyper squirrel or something hahaha

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

haha, yeah..that's my parents for yah. They run a tight ship... xD

Heartless Riku · August 2009

Still all I can say is "WOW"

AshleeBrooke · August 2009

Alright I am just going to assume that they did not make this 3 year old lift hay bales and pther things that a 3 year old could not do. xD If you do not start a child out early with rules/chores/everything else the child will run crazy. Chores for a 3 year old would be helping you out and making it fun stuff. I know my kids all helped me with things around the house and outside as well. I totally agree your parents shouldn't have taken the child without permission. Maybe you can sit them down and have a nice talk. Hopefully that will work. Thats if you even want them to be in her life. Just curious.. Where is this childs mother? My children on the other hand are very sheltered. ^^ We live in a small midwest town. Heck we don't even have a gas station or a store. LOL They do not get exposed to things they shouldn't be. Their father and I will mold them how we see fit. A child should not have to make decisions. They are indeed a child. Thats a parents job. So I guess you could say I agree with your parents pretty much. lmao The only part I disagree with is them taking her without permission.

â™¥Andreaâ™¥ · August 2009

I'm not saying that the way my parents raised me was wrong.. And I agree, they didn't make her do anything she couldn't.. But I do believe that being exposed to only one way of life was something that has limited me as I've grown. Niaa does have rules and chores at home, she doesn't run wild.. But we do allow her to expirence religion, art, music, etc. (The part my parent's don't agree with) So that she will be informed and able to make decisions on her own life when the time comes. I have strong opinions about the lack of culture that many kids are exposed to, so Ae and I decided that it would be best for our child to be able to experience all that. I do parent her...I just don't...I guess set in stone who I want her to be. If she's a good person and contributes to society, even if she disagrees with all our beliefs, I think I did my job. And, her mother died in labor...

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