Am I being selfish?

Ebony · May 2009

Omg. Rant-fest. Oh joy. I won't bother numbering becuase I can't be bothered to sort through my rants and order them for reading convenience. Sorry. Anyways... Here it goes. I like this guy (Let's call him Jack). In fact, I was thinking of him when I made my animated siggy banner. vv I've liked him for awhile, and it's been growing. We've been friends for a few years along with a bunch of other guys and a couple girls. I recently discovered that (let's call her Kelly) likes Jack too. Which is odd, becuase she usually likes short, cute and average intelligence boys (Which is what her previous 5 boyfriends have been). She is short and has average intelligence, so those guys were good matches for her. Jack is neither of those. He's tall-ish (I'm 5'5", and he's about 3" taller than me), and he's highly intelligent (We like to compete when it comes to marks, and our averages are even right now, 90). He's also very funny, and he's sweet (to me, at least. Can't say the same about the others.). I'm a sucker for brains that match or exceed my own, so... ya. Anyways, we both like him, I don't want to share. Kelly said that if he asked me out, I should say yes. But that makes me feel bad, because then I'm stealing him from her... also the chances of that happening are slim, becuase when my best friend "Julie" got "Devin" to interrogate him after she discovered this, he said

My parents think I'm too mature to date.

Lovely. Also, he isn't one for dating (he's never dated, same with me). I just don't know what to do... I don't want to tell him because it would make Kelly feel bad, but I want him to know... Oh my lord... as if drama levels aren't high enough right now in our little group, one of my bffs is moving away. Forever. This will be the THIRD time one of my close friends moved away. In grade 5, my bff moved away to YELLOWKNIFE. In grade 7, my bff moved away to CALIFORNIA. And now, my bff is moving away to either SASKATCHEWAN, or BRITISH COLUMBIA. And after my amazing week at minicourses (Courses on a variety of subjects at a University for a week, either Carleton or Ottawa U.) and feeder school tours yesturday with band, I am now a full 6 days behind in school. Fun. And I have a science test tomorrow on stuff I haven't even learned yet. GRAWR! Cookies if you read all that.

maggiexox · May 2009

You are not being selfish. If you really feel you are, then tell your friend that if he asks her out then she should say yes too (if it doesnt kill you haha). Me and my friend like the same guy and I want so badly for him to ask me out :?

Ebony · May 2009

maggiexox wrote:

You are not being selfish. If you really feel you are, then tell your friend that if he asks her out then she should say yes too (if it doesnt kill you haha). Me and my friend like the same guy and I want so badly for him to ask me out :?

I know, I want to go out soo badly with him, but I don't want to hurt Kelly. He's awesome, and I can talk for hours with him on ANYTHING. I can talk about Jack Horner and buiding a dinosaur (Or other scienific advancements), or I can talk about Star Trek. I can discuss anything and use my full vocabulary. My bff told "Devin" today at lunch that I like Jack, and Devin is thinking about telling Jack, which I'm not sure is a bad thing or not. I don't know... this way he knows I like him before he finds out Kelly likes him. But, it could make it akward between us, and the other guys may tease (Actually, I know they will). I can handle teasing from Devin, and even Jack (He has teased me about having a lower mark on ONE science test), but not from Devin + 6 other guys. No way.

MondyFlax · May 2009

Advice for the teasing. If you like him as much, who cares if people tease you. Just remember in those situations---they aren't as lucky as you are. They don't have what you have. In a way, they're jealous. If you really liked him, you wouldn't care what other people think. :]

DiamondPuppy0809 · May 2009

I can't tell you how much I've been teased by some guy friends I have. xD They know I like one of their friends, and he actually knows too, and they're always like. "Oh, yeah. And she likes him." (They don't even wait for the topic to come up! They just randomly blurt it!) xD The worst thing that happens to me when they do tease me is: my face goes -bright- red.

Anirbas · May 2009

I'm speaking from personal exprience: So in Tech Ed one day I made the mistake of telling the biggest mouth in our school who I like. If someone is going to ruin my life, I'd like it to be me. That is how I see it. And so right after class he was told. Not by me but by his friends and my friends. He said (and I quote, word for word) "I don't care, I really don't." It was the biggest rejection I've ever gotten and believe you me, I've been outcasted quite a bit. So for awhile after that I thought about talking to him in private about it because really, we're in the same boat me and "Mike" talk about everything. He's so much fun for me to be around. So that was my big catch 22. Wanting him to care but glad he didn't. So I'd talk to Jack. Tell him how you feel. I know it's easier said than done. But if Jack likes you too, don't let Kelly have him. I had had my own Kelly once and it ended incredibly badly. Their relationship lasted two months but I was dying a little bit inside all the time, seeing her with him. So don't let the chance slip through your fingers like I did.

Ebony · May 2009

Anirbas wrote:

I'm speaking from personal exprience: So in Tech Ed one day I made the mistake of telling the biggest mouth in our school who I like. If someone is going to ruin my life, I'd like it to be me. That is how I see it. And so right after class he was told. Not by me but by his friends and my friends. He said (and I quote, word for word) "I don't care, I really don't." It was the biggest rejection I've ever gotten and believe you me, I've been outcasted quite a bit. So for awhile after that I thought about talking to him in private about it because really, we're in the same boat me and "Mike" talk about everything. He's so much fun for me to be around. So that was my big catch 22. Wanting him to care but glad he didn't. So I'd talk to Jack. Tell him how you feel. I know it's easier said than done. But if Jack likes you too, don't let Kelly have him. I had had my own Kelly once and it ended incredibly badly. Their relationship lasted two months but I was dying a little bit inside all the time, seeing her with him. So don't let the chance slip through your fingers like I did.

I've tried to tell him, trust me. I've pulled him away after science multiple times, and at lunch, but then I chicken out. Devin was such a jerk at lunch... we all sit together to eat and talk, and I was talking to Jackson, and we got into a debate (forgot what it was about). And Devin, being the clever wit he is, says, "Aww... how she flirts." >.< Jack was clueless, but it's probably because our class had a discussion on it in science. (Our teacher started it, a girl was fighting with a guy, and the teacher just had to say, "Aww... young love. How she flirts.") So, I'm kinda glad that it rolled off his shoulders, because even as it was, we both gaped at Devin, stunned (and I blushed :oops: ). Anyways, ya, I think I'd die a little inside if Kelly went out with Jack... he's amazing.

DiamondPuppy0809 · May 2009

I made a mistake last year. For FOUR years, I liked this one guy. We were really good friends, and he LIVED on my street! I was in heaven

xP My friends said (after the 3rd year I liked him), "Duuuhhh, he likes you back!" I didn't believe them, being the stubborn person I am. the next year, now this year, I was told by a friend (whom wasn't my friend last year), "We played a truth or dare game and we asked who he liked. He said you." Guess who doesn't like me anymore and who I am still trying to get over? Him. Him. HIM. HIIIIIIIM. </3 So, tell him while you can. When his friends/your friends say stuff like "Aww... How she flirts." don't disagree. xD Easier than telling him, but it still hints at it.

Ebony · May 2009

Garfieldz Gal wrote:

So, tell him while you can. When his friends/your friends say stuff like "Aww... How she flirts." don't disagree. xD Easier than telling him, but it still hints at it.

I LOOOOOOOOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE this idea. LOVEEE EET! Where were you at lunchtime? Anyways, the Arts Gala is coming up soon, I'm going becuase I'm in band (<3), and he may be going because he's in drama. I hope he is, becuase he didn't go to Semi-formal and see me in my dress! (Lmao, just kidding... although the dance was fun. I got to dance with most of my friends) So, I can hope, hope, hope that he'll go to the Arts Gala, and we can AT LEAST hang out with the rest of our arsty-fartsy friends. :P Julie told me that Kelly has a plan to figure out who he likes... it's complex, but, erm, I'm glad I don't have a part in it besides being a co-subject. XD (It's kinda confusing, and strange) I'm just scared it'll ruin our friendship if we do end up going out then break up... he's such a nice guy and I've been friends with him for awhile. And where else can I fulfill my intelligent debate/conversation needs while at school? XD *edit* OMG, WTH is wrong with my post? The size is larger then everything else, and my banners are massive.

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