Why Are You So Freaking Busy???

3Eagles · May 2009

This is my pitiful little rant. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year now. I know that usually most high school relationships don't last. Well I think this one will. We both have a lot in common but are different enough that things are interesting. We definitely think alike on a lot of stuff. I love him and he loves me. What can be wrong you ask? Well he is always so busy. I mean seriously he has something every single day. He loves to help other people. I like it that he does but I wish he would save some more time in his schedule for other things. He could also use some just him time. I feel like I have to force my way into his schedule sometimes. I usually don't mind and don't complain cause I know he has obligations that he needs to finish right now. But a guy who used to be my pastor just died. He had stage 4 cancer and they found it too late. He died last night. There are just times when you need your bf to just be there with you. He was with me last night when I heard the news. I really needed a hug but he left before I could get one. I really wanted to hang out with him today but he had to work. I really do understand that he is busy and can't be with me always. I totally don't expect that cause its not like we are married or even engaged at this point. I just wish that he could be with me for some things. Guys are so touchy about their space sometimes. I don't ever want to seem to crowd or hog my bf. I just would like some more time with him. Hopefully with summer around the corner he will be able to slow down some. Am I wrong for wanting more of his time?

Sea Oats · May 2009

I know exactly how you feel. I've been dating my boyfriend for 14 months tomorrow, so a little over a year. We're in sort of..a long distance relationship. He lives about an hour away. Only an hour. It used to be really easy, he would drive down here every single weekend and on school breaks and stuff, but then he got his license revoked back in September. He got a new job at that point because his parents said he needed to work more. So I saw him -maybe- once a month because we both had to depend on friends to get to his house/my house and talked to him -maybe- every other day because he was so busy with school and work. He finally got his license back in January, and he came down here two weekends in a row, then he totalled his car the day after he got home from my house. Not only was that night terrifying, because I just so happened to call him while he was in the ambulance on the way to the hospital, but that also meant that he wouldn't have a car anymore. Right now, he's working two jobs, and he's working on senior stuff to graduate not to mention he has school, so he's pretty busy. I talk to him every day, but it's usually for only an hour at a time. He's leaving for basic training for the Navy in November. That's 6 weeks, home for a week, then A-school which is 6-8 weeks depending, then until Novmeber 2013 he will be gone for 6 months, home for 6 months. As of right now, I haven't seen him in 3 weeks today. Before that, it was over 2 months. I love him. I'm in love with him. We're getting married. I have everything but the ring. It's hard, and you're not wrong for wanting more of his time, because you're his girlfriend and he probably feels bad that he can't give you that. I know my boyfriend feels horrible about it, but both of us know right now we don't have a choice. Maybe talk to him and tell him how you feel, but don't give him a hard time about it... If you read all that, here's a cookie. <img src="http://i44.tinypic.com/2a76g6r.png"; alt="http://i44.tinypic.com/2a76g6r.png"; class="bb-image" />

MondyFlax · May 2009

-takes Cookie- >.> Awwe, I'm sorry for you guys.

It makes me sad when my friends are in these situations.. But think about the bright sides. You guys have someone who loves you deeply. That's good.

-huggles Vi & Trissy-

3Eagles · May 2009

SeaOats wrote:

I know exactly how you feel. I've been dating my boyfriend for 14 months tomorrow, so a little over a year. We're in sort of..a long distance relationship. He lives about an hour away. Only an hour. It used to be really easy, he would drive down here every single weekend and on school breaks and stuff, but then he got his license revoked back in September. He got a new job at that point because his parents said he needed to work more. So I saw him -maybe- once a month because we both had to depend on friends to get to his house/my house and talked to him -maybe- every other day because he was so busy with school and work. He finally got his license back in January, and he came down here two weekends in a row, then he totalled his car the day after he got home from my house. Not only was that night terrifying, because I just so happened to call him while he was in the ambulance on the way to the hospital, but that also meant that he wouldn't have a car anymore. Right now, he's working two jobs, and he's working on senior stuff to graduate not to mention he has school, so he's pretty busy. I talk to him every day, but it's usually for only an hour at a time. He's leaving for basic training for the Navy in November. That's 6 weeks, home for a week, then A-school which is 6-8 weeks depending, then until Novmeber 2013 he will be gone for 6 months, home for 6 months. As of right now, I haven't seen him in 3 weeks today. Before that, it was over 2 months. I love him. I'm in love with him. We're getting married. I have everything but the ring. It's hard, and you're not wrong for wanting more of his time, because you're his girlfriend and he probably feels bad that he can't give you that. I know my boyfriend feels horrible about it, but both of us know right now we don't have a choice. Maybe talk to him and tell him how you feel, but don't give him a hard time about it... If you read all that, here's a cookie. <img src="http://i44.tinypic.com/2a76g6r.png"; alt="http://i44.tinypic.com/2a76g6r.png"; class="bb-image" />

Eats the cookie and hands you a cookie. Wow. I couldn't imagine living an hour away from my boyfriend. He is older than me by 3 years. So he is 18 and graduating this year. He has 2 years of college to go through and then he can become a police officer. I know things after this summer are going to get really hectic and we won't be able to spend much time together. After his 2 years of college though I will be 18 so we can get married then or wait a little bit first. I'm not sure if I want to go through college right after I graduate or not yet. I really hope that you and your boyfriend can spend some time together before he has to leave. I would totally hate having to go through that, but if my boyfriend wanted to do the same thing since I love him I would let him go since he wants too. I did somewhat talk to him about it. I could never give him a hard time about it. I speak my mind and am not afraid to stand up for what I want, but when it comes to my boyfriend I am careful how I state whats on my mind. He told me that I never have to be afraid to ask him to spend more time with me or that I really want to see him on a certain day. He just has some things that he needs to finish first before his schedule slows down. Which makes me happy. At least for the summer he will be more relaxed and hopefully won't have much to do. Thanks Vi! Hearing from you that I should talk to him helped me talk to him about it. I really hope that things get better for you and your boyfriend.

MondyFlax wrote:

-takes Cookie- >.> Awwe, I'm sorry for you guys. It makes me sad when my friends are in these situations.. But think about the bright sides. You guys have someone who loves you deeply. That's good. -huggles Vi & Trissy-

Hands you another cookie! Thanks Mondy! I do try to look on the bright side.. It's just really hard sometimes. One thing I have to remember is and Ry reminds me of this a lot. In 2 and half short years I won't have to leave him again. I wouldn't trade anything in the world for Ry. Huggle you back and Vi!

Sea Oats · May 2009

Trisscar wrote:

Eats the cookie and hands you a cookie. Wow. I couldn't imagine living an hour away from my boyfriend. He is older than me by 3 years. So he is 18 and graduating this year. He has 2 years of college to go through and then he can become a police officer. I know things after this summer are going to get really hectic and we won't be able to spend much time together. After his 2 years of college though I will be 18 so we can get married then or wait a little bit first. I'm not sure if I want to go through college right after I graduate or not yet. I really hope that you and your boyfriend can spend some time together before he has to leave. I would totally hate having to go through that, but if my boyfriend wanted to do the same thing since I love him I would let him go since he wants too. I did somewhat talk to him about it. I could never give him a hard time about it. I speak my mind and am not afraid to stand up for what I want, but when it comes to my boyfriend I am careful how I state whats on my mind. He told me that I never have to be afraid to ask him to spend more time with me or that I really want to see him on a certain day. He just has some things that he needs to finish first before his schedule slows down. Which makes me happy. At least for the summer he will be more relaxed and hopefully won't have much to do. Thanks Vi! Hearing from you that I should talk to him helped me talk to him about it. I really hope that things get better for you and your boyfriend.

Yea, that's how Stetson is. He always wants me to be so open and honest with him, but with him graduating and going into the Navy in just a matter of months, it's hard for me to add more stress on him about our relationship. I should be the least of his worries and I should be the one supporting him 100%, and I am, but that doesn't make it easy. D; Stetson's schedule will slow down a lot after graduation too, and we're going to Florida for 2 weeks in July so I can meet his grandparents and his half brother. [: So that's exciting. And just like you, by the time Stetson finishes up his active tour of duty (which starts the day he leaves for basic training, meaning it will end in November of 2013), I will have graduated high school and we will both have or be pretty damn close to having a 4 year college degree, so that will make things a hell of a lot easier on both of us. And both of us are going into the medical field, I'm majoring in neurology, he in general surgery, so we should be pretty well off. ;D

Pandalove · May 2009

At least you live near your boyfriend, I live 8 hours away from mine. :( Good thing I'm moving in January. :D

Anirbas · May 2009

One thing I hate is when you don't have enough time. My uncle's friend was going out with this girl, I don't know if they were engaged or what, but she had a kid with a different guy and my uncle's friend (we'll call him Sam) loves that kid. Then then this past winter she got in a car accident. The flowers are -still- up in the intersection where she died last I saw. He has a tattoo with her favorite song lyrics on it. Now the kid's real dad wants full custody and Sam is taking it really hard, because he loved this girl and this kid. All this I was told at the concert while sam's girlfriend's favorite song was being played live. All I have to say is, you'll never know how much time you'll have, so make the most of it. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that time with him is important to you.

3Eagles · May 2009

SeaOats wrote:

Trisscar wrote:

Eats the cookie and hands you a cookie. Wow. I couldn't imagine living an hour away from my boyfriend. He is older than me by 3 years. So he is 18 and graduating this year. He has 2 years of college to go through and then he can become a police officer. I know things after this summer are going to get really hectic and we won't be able to spend much time together. After his 2 years of college though I will be 18 so we can get married then or wait a little bit first. I'm not sure if I want to go through college right after I graduate or not yet. I really hope that you and your boyfriend can spend some time together before he has to leave. I would totally hate having to go through that, but if my boyfriend wanted to do the same thing since I love him I would let him go since he wants too. I did somewhat talk to him about it. I could never give him a hard time about it. I speak my mind and am not afraid to stand up for what I want, but when it comes to my boyfriend I am careful how I state whats on my mind. He told me that I never have to be afraid to ask him to spend more time with me or that I really want to see him on a certain day. He just has some things that he needs to finish first before his schedule slows down. Which makes me happy. At least for the summer he will be more relaxed and hopefully won't have much to do. Thanks Vi! Hearing from you that I should talk to him helped me talk to him about it. I really hope that things get better for you and your boyfriend.

 Yea, that's how Stetson is. He always wants me to be so open and honest with him, but with him graduating and going into the Navy in just a matter of months, it's hard for me to add more stress on him about our relationship. I should be the least of his worries and I should be the one supporting him 100%, and I am, but that doesn't make it easy. D; Stetson's schedule will slow down a lot after graduation too, and we're going to Florida for 2 weeks in July so I can meet his grandparents and his half brother. [: So that's exciting. And just like you, by the time Stetson finishes up his active tour of duty (which starts the day he leaves for basic training, meaning it will end in November of 2013), I will have graduated high school and we will both have or be pretty damn close to having a 4 year college degree, so that will make things a hell of a lot easier on both of us. And both of us are going into the medical field, I'm majoring in neurology, he in general surgery, so we should be pretty well off. ;D

Ya I can totally relate. I don't like adding stress to Ry, thats why I don't always speak up when I want to spend time with him. Ya it definitely doesn't make anything easier. Hope you have a lot of fun in Florida!

Thats cool. I'm not totally sure what I want to do. I am thinking about teaching or maybe being a counsler. idk though. At least Ry knows what he is going to do. I hope you get to spend some more time with Stetson before he has to leave.

Pandalove wrote:

At least you live near your boyfriend, I live 8 hours away from mine. :( Good thing I'm moving in January. :D

Aww Panda I'm sorry.

I would totally hate living that far away from Ry. I'm glad that you get to move then!

Anirbas wrote:

One thing I hate is when you don't have enough time. My uncle's friend was going out with this girl, I don't know if they were engaged or what, but she had a kid with a different guy and my uncle's friend (we'll call him Sam) loves that kid. Then then this past winter she got in a car accident. The flowers are -still- up in the intersection where she died last I saw. He has a tattoo with her favorite song lyrics on it. Now the kid's real dad wants full custody and Sam is taking it really hard, because he loved this girl and this kid. All this I was told at the concert while sam's girlfriend's favorite song was being played live. All I have to say is, you'll never know how much time you'll have, so make the most of it. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that time with him is important to you.

Aww thats so sad.

Ry now knows that I want more time with him. Right now he can't give me that but as soon as summer starts hopefully life will slow down.

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