How can i hate him?

Minx · January 2009

I think i LITERALLY hate my brother. I love animals and animal sports.. i ride horses and do dog agility and show animals and my brother is a jock. He always tells me im fat and lazy and im an idiot and i cant do anything. I hate how he thinks i have to be just like him to be good at anything. He is always on some stupid protein diet or carb diet ect ect and he always makes fun of me for not eating like he does or when i dont excercise when he does. He'll yell at me for not being exactally like him. It is so bad. I have the really embarassing habit of crying when i get mad and i always seem to end up crying running to my room cuz of him. Everyone says "oh youll miss him when he's gone" but i really dont believe them. I honestly think i wouldnt cry if he died right now. I dont WANT to feel like this about but i really cant love someone who is like a pebbel in my shoe. His girlfriend even admitted to me that she thinks he's cruel to me. He talks about me when im not around anf it is so sickening to me. Arent we suppose to love thy brother? But somehow i hate him sooo much. It makes me feel even worse then before.....

Pepper97 · January 2009

Oh, you have an older. I have a younger, and he's a brother. But my brother's nine. He is BABIED sooo much by my parents, trust me... be happy with your brother. That's what brothers do. I wouldn't let it bother me. I love animals too, but I am athletic. Once he moves out, he'll wish he hadn't have said those things.

Minx · January 2009

i dont know. He's the kind of person who only see's things through his eyes. He says that his sports are better than mine cuz he practices every day.. he tends not to see the fact that i practice every day too.. he just isnt there to see it.. we were literally sitting on the couch and he told me to get up and turn on the light.. i had my computer on a desk in front of me and he didnt and i said no.. he literally cussed me out and called me a lazy idiot and he couls reach it easier than i could...

SunnyDaysDontLie · January 2009

I have a younger brother. He had a friend over, and I walk out, happened to be wearing my Nightmare Before Christmas tee and my Tripp jeans, and he points to me, and looks at his friend and goes 'This is my fat ugly goth sister' Those happen to be my fathers exact words ^_^ Only in place of 'sister' it was 'daughter' >_>

Pepper97 · January 2009

Sunneh! Why did your dad call you fat and ugly??

Kazuko · January 2009

One has to remember it's human nature to pick on those smaller and weaker than you are to make yourself feel stronger. =p Humans hate to show weakness, so they think it makes them tougher if they can harass other people. xD Also, insults aren't insults if you don't agree with them. =p If you let it hurt, then it's an insult. If you don't let it hurt, it just makes them look stupid. xD

Minx · January 2009

Haha! now IM the one being mean.. she's BEGGING me to go play tennis with himand im like "Nope sorry. im to lazy to plan tennis with you"

Ebony · January 2009

I have a younger sister and a brother who are both athletic. My brother plays football for 2 different teams, regional and local, and he plays competitive AA hockey. My sister plays soccer competitively, and dances. Me, I only hate my sis, becuase she thinks shes better than me. I could have played competitive soccer, in fact, I was invited to (which is better than she can say), but I decided to ride instead, because I enjoy riding more. I play soccer recreational during the summer (like, local non-competitve teams where any skill level can play), and I'm great. But I would rather be out on Ricky (The 14.1 5yr old pony I ride) than out on the soccer field. I can't stand my sister, and I hate her. Shes 3 yrs younger than me, and she bothers the crap out of me. Our personalitys conflict so much, that I can barely look and think of her without getting upset. I'm the friendly teen who has few, but very, very close friends, and is generous, nice, and smart. She's the pre-teen who is "popular" (has a lot of friends), but treats them like dirt, she treats everyone like shes the queen and they are the servents. She brags constantly, and if she doesn't get something, she whines. And yells. And throws a temper tantrum. Anyways, I just ignore her, she hates it, but it really helps me. I cry too when upset, but I have learned a trick that helps; Don't make eye contact. Look either just above or below, and think of your dog, or something you love 57846734896734897689x more than him/her.

Minx · January 2009

ill have to try that. She sounds JUST like him too...

rohesia · February 2009

Humm, I have an older and a younger brother, and my older brother is quite sweet. I couldn't imagine a better brother, and I know it would kill me if he were to die. It's hard enough having him living abroad in the USA. My younger brother is the brat in the family, but I would be upset if he were to pass on suddenly, as well. So though at the moment he's just being an arse, remember that he is your brother, and deep down he loves you. He'll be there for you when some sod breaks your heart, and he'll be there for you when you study for university exams, and he'll be there on your wedding day, and when you have kids (if you choose to). Sunny, I know how that's like but hon, my dad was like that, and I really don't want to get into much detail about that, but just know you've always got friends on here to talk to. And for the record Tripp is hardly goth ;]

DustyVinci · February 2009

Hm... I have three older brothers and five younger siblings. They would never try and hurt me ever. Sure I get mad at them but I've learned the will to avoid feeling that I really "hate" them. Hate is a big word, bigger than allot of people think. I once had a friend who's brother did the exact same thing to her, Vamp. When I was around and caught him picking on her, I'd start lashing out at him (without getting too close) and I'm pretty sure I surprised him every time xD It was a good thing to see the expression on his face. But he's like, really good-looking and I guess popular so he's probably treated like a big-shot all the time... Twas nice showing him how he really was acting =3 Maybe you can try that? Don't be mean, but don't let him step all over you either. Perhaps go to your parents about it? If he wants to call you a "cry baby tattle tale" (like I've been called a few times), then he can. You're just protecting yourself by going to your parents, not tattling unless you're doing it to get your brother in trouble. I've said this a thousand-million times but I'll say it again: "When somebody acts like that, ignore him, remembering that HE'S the wrong one, not you. He's acting like a jerk, there's nothing wrong with you." So many of you are probably so sick and tired of my lectures xDD Believe me, my family is too. Ugh =/ Anyway, hope I helped!

Good luck!

kimyo · February 2009

Oh gosh... This sounds like my WHOLE family. Literally. My dad has this idea that MEN are better than WOMEN. Literally. Everything I do is overlooked, and everything that my brothers do (older) are always praised. I became depressed over this and lost interest in trying to keep my body up with the times and I have let myself go. Now since I'm fat and overweight, I get even more insults and poundings than before. I get told to stop eating and my parents even hide food at home from me. It's soo irritating because my family doesn't think I'm GOOD enough for anything. I'm smart and I excel at my studies. I'm a straight A student, but since I'm a female, it's over looked. Both of my older brothers are also straight A students, but since I'm the youngest and a girl, I'm the one who gets the put downs. Only my second older brother is actually helping me. (kinda) He tells me that I'm not pretty and I should put on make-up (currently I don't) and to straighten my hair (which again, I currently don't do). My oldest brother is a working guy with a degree in college. He's dating the same girl and has broken up with her seven times, but she still "follows" him. I'm stuck in this little world where I see all of this happening, and since I'm still under 18 years of age, I'm not able to start my life away from all of this "masculine dominance". Oh yeah. I forgot about my grandmother. She's the mom of my dad. She is the WORST at it even though she is a female. When we get handed money, my brothers get $500 each, and last year, I only got $6. It's not really that fair AT ALL. I don't know what's their problem, but I'm living in their house right now and I'm not going to complain now. I'm going to wait until I get out of here and go to college. This is one of the longest rants I've ever had, but it's been irritating me from day one. I'm tired of being overlooked and judged for the way I look from everyone in my family. I haven't even started with my aunts and uncles (even the ones that aren't family, but married on). I'm just tired of it all, but I'm trying to get through it and still have some dignity left. My advice is to excel in what you can do now, and later on, show off what you can do and they WILL regret it. My situation right now is better than earlier because since I study my butt off, I'm getting better grades than my brothers, and I'm getting a little bit more recognition. Just keep working at it and if he EVER tells you anything that you don't like, ignore him or leave the situation immediately. Read a good book in your room and get away from the drama. You're just gonna stress yourself further than you need to. <end rant>

DustyVinci · February 2009

Aw *huggles kimmy* All I know is you're a great person on VP so I'm sure you're just as awesome off of VP =] Don't let anyone tell you different

kimyo · February 2009

=D *huggles back*

Minx · February 2009

xD agreed Kimmy. Thats how i feel. My dad ALWAYS sides with my brother and calls me a cry baby.. he was beating my horse today and made him rear trying to load him in the trailer and he broke the lead rope and flew backwards and hit his head on a stump and i was in the trailer and just watched this happen to one of my best friends **my horse lol** and i started crying cuz i SAW him go backwards and felt the trailer tossing and he was getting mad at me... O.o

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