Wearing Thin

tarnish · January 2009

First, if any of you have younger siblings, you would get this. I had a cold day today and so did my sister. I am stuck with her all day. My sister Kelsey is going through that really bad stage where she thinks everything is about her and that she can rule the house and get away with yelling, sad thing is, she is. Kelsey is now 11 years old. Already she into texting and all that junk. She has her own phone and carries it around everywhere! We each have unlimited texts so all day I hear her phone. I ask her to but it on vibrate or silent and of course she doesn't. I don't text nearly as much as her. I hardly use my phone and even now its not charged too much. Now its not that big of a deal with the phone, but when I keep hearing it and when I try to talk to her and she will be texting, its annoying. I have babysat her for ages..I think since I was around 12 yrs. old. She used to listen to me. Now she yells and we argue constantly. My mom does nothing about all the things she does. When I was my sister's age, I was stuck in the corner a lot. Noo she gets sent to her room which has a tv and junk. I didn't have a tv in my room at her age. Speaking of which, she leaves it on practically all day. My mom says it's better to just leave her instead of bothering to punish her or talk to her. I would be sitting there and looking at something near her and she will glare at me and shout, "what are you looking at!?" Anything and everything is an argument. I drive her to her music lessons everyday at 4:45pm on Tuesdays. I would sit in the cold car while I wait for her lessons to end. Everytime I drive her, we fight when we get home. I am sick of doing things for her and she doesn't give a damn. Just today she had to keep singing this thing over and over. I asked her to stop. Of course she doesn't. She hoola hooped in the living room, and I told her to go in the basement or in the garage. She's like, "its cold there smarts" -.- She insults me everyday, even when I dont say a word to her. She will tell me to go away when I go to chat with my mom. Today I tell her to pick up since mom was coming home soon. She is a neat freak. So I pick up my things, my moms things, and some of Kelseys. I tell her to clean the things I left and she giveme crap saying she isn't going to pickup anything. I feel like I am under appreciated in many things. Then there are the vp people on here. I am not getting into that. Everyone seems to get upset with me and I can't find any haven. I get irratated so easily, but not mad. Lately though my tolerance is slipping through my fingers.

CallyKats Dachshunds · January 2009

i feel for you tarn! mi mum says the same thing for mi younger brother!

TheDogHandler · January 2009

Fair speaking?, she sounds like a brat. But that's what 11 year olds are supposed to be like?, no? I was.. and I know there will be people who weren't/aren't. I feel for you.. and again, I understand about the VP part, I still feel that, like a week after your post. D: It does sound she's ungrateful... though. But as you said, you try talking to her.. and my cousins are like that too. "Pick up your toys, your mum will be mad." "No! I don't want to! You do it!" Blah blah.. It's annoying. Sorry, tarn. =(

tarnish · January 2009

My mom says I was worse than her when I was her age. I know her thought process and why she does the things she does. Its such a bad stage. I really am close to hitting her, too bad she is faster than me..xD And yeah she is a brat. 3 times she forgot her instrument at school when she had lessons. I remember, though, when I have to drive her. I never forget her lessons. Then I have to waste gas to drive her up to the middle school to get her noise machine.

Alliieennss · January 2009

Gosh, I would beat her, teach her some respect xDDD. But that really sucks, I hate bratty kids like that, and I think it's terrible that your mom wont do anything about it...Take away her phone and TV or something at least!

Ebony · January 2009

Are your sisters and mine clones? My sister can get away with murder, and my mom wouldn't care. I so much as snap something at her when SHE STARTED IT, and I get in trouble. She curses at me under her breath when I walk past, and she seems to think we are not even worthy to be in her presense. I can honestly say, I feel no love at all for her. Not anything. She treats everyone like dirt, even her friends, and with a few tears and hissy fits, my parents will do her homework and projects. Anyways, I have no real advice for you, but you can just ignore her. If she starts yelling, just keep ignoring her. If she attacks you (like my sister), just walk away. It's all I can do until I finish highschool, and move away to Uni.

tarnish · January 2009

My sister doesn't swear thank goodness. I am the one that screams obsenities because..well..I am a teen and I am pissed. XD And my mom did take her cell phone once. It didn't help really. It caused issues when we couldn't get a hold of her. Lucky for me, my sister doesn't attack me unless I attack her. She will sit right in front of me when I am watching tv so I will nudge her with me leg and she will slap me and call me stupid. e.e Oh and I think she is bipolar. She will be totally mad and screaming and then will start laughing for no reason. Its kinda creepy and its like she is pmsing but she doesnt have hers yet. That would be a nightmare. o.o

ChibiWerewolf · January 2009

Poor Tarn, Dx My sister is getting to that age wear she thinks it's funny to underline me. My little brother too. So I completly understand your position. My little brother is atleast still afriad of me. He took the computer when I went to go outside for a second and I look at him with the most serious "=.=" and he jumped off the computer. (heh,) But you shouldn't let someone younger than you think it's ok to treat you that way. Because it's not. She's just going through that stage. Don't worry, nobodys 11 forever.

AshleeBrooke · January 2009

So you have a baby sister. xD I also have a baby sister. She drove me completely nuts when I was a teen. 10 year difference between us. lol She got everything and could do no wrong. Give it time and when you get older you will like her once again. xD Now that my sister is in high school and I am much older we get along great. ;D

TheDogHandler · January 2009

Ahah. I'm still waiting for my brother, who is 3 years older than me, get to realise I'm not a spoilt brat anymore..

Lol.

SunnyDaysDontLie · January 2009

Tarn

I sorry. My family is the same way with my brother. I'd just ignore her now. Don't fight back. When she argues with you in the car, turn up the music until you cant hear your thoughts or her voice :]

Minx · January 2009

well Tarn.. im the youngest in my family but i TOTALLY know how you feel... my brother is a ig shot at school and he finds it fun to treat me like this in front of his friends and at school. Its horrible. He talks about me when im not there too. Also... when it comes to dealing with little kdis... mua ha ha! Im a babysitter see... and i babysat twins last year... when they didnt mind.. i have these painful but not hurtful ways to MAKE kids mind.. and i got locked out of the house by a 5 yr old once and i got SOOO mad at her. She was in time out for like.. 3 hrs xDbut anyways.. im sorry for your suffering Tarn...

Berton · January 2009

Aww tarn im sorry about your sister xD Im an only child so i cant feel your pain. But tarn can come live with me

Pepper97 · January 2009

9. year. old. brother. I thought I'd die before now, but I made it through. O.O

Alabama · January 2009

I think the point my little sister doesn't bug me still hasn't come and we're in our 30's. There's not quite 3 years between us and she was constantly in my hair at that age and all through the teens until I left home. I was a loner, whereas she was the cheerleader etc. I think the point where she stopped bothering me so much is when I stopped responding to her. When I stopped worrying about what she did and didn't get in trouble for and just worried about the things I could or couldn't get in trouble for. If we were home alone, such as during the winter, I'd remind her of our chores and if she didn't get hers done, she bore the consequences. I stopped trying to "boss" her around. One time, at the age of 10, she decided that since I wasn't going to respond and fight with her, she was going to run away from home. I let her. I watched her out the window until she went out of sight, then followed her and saw where she went. When mom and dad got home, I told them she'd said she run away and was down the street in the neighbor's doghouse, then went back to reading. Of course, my mom asked why and I explained. She asked why I didn't stop her and I asked back, "What should I have done?" She was safe, I knew where she was and that she wasn't going to get hurt. They couldn't answer and left me alone after that when it came to me supposed to be controlling her. She got grounded for 2 weeks. From then on, chores were written out and she was responsible, for the most part, for herself. She still had to go everywhere with me if my parents weren't home and if she wanted to go somewhere, she had to tell me or leave a note for my parents. I was still responsible for making sure she got home from school safely, if she was more than 20 minutes late (I got out of school before her) I called one of my parents, but I was no longer my sister's keeper. We weren't to call them for arguments, so if we fought, I stayed calm until she got upset enough to call mom, which got her into trouble. As long as you do what you're supposed to and even a bit beyond, your sister will eventually get herself into trouble. If you're supposed to be babysitting an 11 year old, it's not like your parents can expect you to really do any discipline, so if they get on you about something she did, ask them what you should have done differently so you don't get into trouble over her any more. Don't say it in a whiney/argumentative tone, be mature about it, like you were asking a teacher to explain a math problem. All I can say on the bright side is at least you have separate rooms LOL my sister and I didn't until the year I graduated. There was no "haven" for me except to ignore her. If she starts picking fights, go to your room, shut and lock the door and turn the music on loudly.

tarnish · January 2009

Haha Chibi. All I gotta do to scare her is move slightly in her direction. It doesnt stop her from acting out though. She do something then run away and I am too lazy to chase after her. I don't feel like bothering. I do try and ignore her but most of the time it just gets worse and can break anyones tolerance. I try and hide out in my room. She bangs on the door and repeats things over and over until I answer her or open the door. She can do those things for hours. I have heard that you will eventually get along better with your siblings with age, but it will be awhile for us to be on the same level. She is 5 years young than me. I do think we will eventually but for now its just blah. Also, I have tried that Bama. I would do my things and my mom's things and maybe some of hers. Like the dishes in the sink, I will do almost all of them but leave my sister's things. I get yelled at for there being stuff in there still. "I work hard and it would take five minutes for you to do all the dishes. It's not a big deal," <<my moms said that. It's not just the work. She can't have everyone do all her things. If she doesn't do what she is told, my mom will evetually just do it for her since its not worth it. Kelsey was supposed to clean her room. She was told for weeks to do it. My mom let me stay home from school to clean it since she wouldn't. I basically piled the garabage and threw it out, gathered clothes into one pile, and put her toys in a pile. On the followig weekend my mom sorted the toys into smaller piles, did her laundry, and cleaned her room with like pledge and such. The there's the pizza thing. We each got a pizza and were watching tv with mom. My mom kept saying we had to wrap up the pizza. So after my mom goes to bed, I go and wrap mine up and stick it in the fridge. Kelsey was on the couch and was talking to me not that long ago, so I told her to remember to wrap hers up before she goes to bed. Now, we were told around 5 times to do this. I get up in the morning and go downstairs and my sister gives me a look and says "since you didn't wrap up my pizza it went bad! Mom left you a note and I got new pizza". There was a note. It said something like I should have done it, that she was disappointed at me, that she left money for my sister to get a small pizza, and that I was lazy to not do hers. Well, she was lazy to not do it herself. Then she used the excuse that she was asleep when I told her. Guess what? She was told so many times when she was awake. So I get in trouble for her not doing what she was supposed to. I started arguing with my mom when she got back. Eventually mom appologized to me for being crabby. And..I wasn't going to wake her up if she was sleeping to tell her about the pizza. She sleepwalks and talks in her sleep. Its damn scary. You can't tell if she is awake or sleeping. She will actually talk to you but the if you ask her in the morning if she remembers it..she wont. Its really creepy buecause will get mad easily when she sleeptalks. She has punched my mom in her sleep and thought the dining room was the bathroom o.O So I dont bug her when she's sleeping. xD Either way..I can't really win.

DustyVinci · January 2009

Sounds like your sister has some "issues" to sort out, tarn xD My little sister's ten and she has always had major temper problems. She's still a little brat at times. There are seven of us at home and none of us really fight. The toddlers will throughout the day but none of us really want to. We mainly do just whenever something comes up that we don't agree on. None of my siblings are teens so yeah, they're all still pretty young xD What I do is think of it this way: Bringing up more things that could make them mad will cause more trouble - not good. Even if it makes me feel good for the moment, doesn't mean it will end good. Your sister doesn't seem to care what she does to you. It sounds like she doesn't feel any guilt when she lies (getting you and not herself) What I would suggest is telling her how she makes you feel all the time. Ask her if she likes being the bully around the house. Remind her that things won't always turn out her way and she'll be sorry and maybe even feel stupid when she loses. I dunno. She can think whatever she wants, but the truth is that she's acting disrespectfully and unacceptible and anyone who chooses not to fight and lie like she is doing is really the winner. *twitch* I hate it when siblings act like that. But I've found that acting kindy towards them and telling them the truth about how they're acting is the 100% right answer. Do not start returning their bad behavior with a bitter attitude of your own. I learned this the hard way xD Another piece of good advice is "If she slaps you across the face, don't go back for revenge but offer her the other side." You just need to be patient and allot of these methods will work =] Even when you really feel like lashing out or "going for her", it will only make things worse. Won't help your sister's attitude one bit. You don't want her to be afraid of you, you want her to respect you. Same with dogs (just don't tell her it's the same with dogs xD) But I don't agree with your mom for letting her get away with things just because punishing her wouldn't be "worth it". The kid will only get worse. It's like feeding a tornado. >personal experience< xDD Good luck, tarny ^_^ *hugs*

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