Confidence.

UnknownDreamland · January 2008

Anyone have trouble being confident? I do. Real life.. Whether it's calling for the ball in soccer, or ordering food from a waitress. I'm afraid of messing up or doing something stupid and being laughed at. One of the reasons I have no friends I guess. Any ways you've helped your confidence or something?

Jazz · January 2008

You're not alone... I have the exact same problem. I can't think of anything I've done, I'm still half-asleep, but it'll come to me later so I'll tell you then.

UnknownDreamland · January 2008

You're half asleep? 0.o I've been up since 4 and went to sleep at 2.

lilly waters · January 2008

It helps to start getting up in front of people and do something. Try doing a play with people and work your way up. I do a whole lot of drama productions and drum things. It helps cause I know I was so scared of ordering from a waitress and stuff. And if I don't want to mess up in front of people, being a actress is a little hard. I want to be a actress though.

Aziu · January 2008

I used to be really self-conscious. Still am on occasion. What I've found that has really helped me is finding even just one friend who I'm completely comfortable around - and just be my foolish self. The essence of it is just don't let yourself care what others think - most people you would run into at stores/restaurants you're not likely to see again. So what does their opinion matter? And having a friend around is a nice support net because a real friend won't criticize you. Joke, perhaps, but not cruelly. If you mess up, don't kick yourself over it, just let it go, and maybe even allow yourself to laugh about it. The less you let yourself fret the easier it is. Just some ideas that have helped me there. ;P

Sea Oats · January 2008

I used to be really like...scared of people xD But I started acting, and I think it brought the best in me out for everyone to see. You should try something like that ^.^

UnknownDreamland · January 2008

I used to.. I just lost interest in it.

Sea Oats · January 2008

You lost interest in theater? I didn't think it was possible xD Anyways.. I used to force my best friend to talk to people in public, that's how I got her to open up. And I took her with me to hang out with people she didn't know...it sounds cruel, but it worked and she thanks me xD Go somewhere you wouldn't usually go ;p

EricaLee · January 2008

Go out with your friends, cause you can't be friendless no matter what you say Dreamy xD, and just be yourself. In public. Who cares what those strangers passing you think? There's a 99.99999% chance that you'll never see them again [and that rounds up too 100%

] And when you're walking down the hall in school, hold your head up high and even if you don't feel confident, act confident. Play the part. If people think you're confident, they're more likely to talk to you.

a-sap · January 2008

I have the same problem. I sometimes am too afraid to even ask a question online to someone, if I know them or not, because I'm afraid of what they'll think of my. I am so pathetic. :oops:

Tattoo · January 2008

I was like that...alot. Still am. It's hard but i have amazing friends that will look stupid with me. Sometimes you just need to learn to laugh at yourself. Think about it. Human beings are rediculous. Now when I do something stupid...like last week i fell when i was getting out of the car at the movies. I just laid on the ground and laughed. And you know what? There was a huge line of people looking at me. I just walked past all of these people and laughed. Because they were whispering about me. And I didnt care because I wouldnt see them again.

UnknownDreamland · January 2008

Ah. Let's compromise Erica. There is no one but Auzzy and other animals that I feel close enough to at an emotion level to go anywhere with or make a fool out of myself.

NickelbackLuver · January 2008

Dreamy, I can't tell you how much like that I am. It wasn't till this year I was able to do anything but giggle like an idiot when someone I didn't know talked to me -_- I still have a hard time ordering from waitresses *thats partially my mom's fault since she's done it for me up until this year* Even my dog trainers, Im afraid to talk to though I know them just fine. My mom told me to ask them for change, and I was like, "Why can't you do it?" So, I think I see that I have been relying on my parents a little too much... And my mom has finally noticed it I think >.< I can finally act like myself with the people sitting around me in Band, but, I've been stuck sitting next to them for 5 years ^.^ And the person I sit next to on the bus... and that's about it. Even my best friend, I dont act completely like myself, I guess I dont want to do something ridiculous and scare people away >. Though, I have found it easier to talk to people if one of my friends is around me. When Im all by myself talking to someone I dont know, I usually giggle... and say nothing at all. Probably the same reason I have no friends

Only topic I'm comfortable talking about to anyone, is dogs,writing&Music. I guess my interests are the only things that seem to allow me to talk to people. ^.^ And it's so strange, because inside I tell myself I don't care what other's think, and I don't even like the majority of the people in my school... yet I still freeze up when someone new talks to me. We're in the same boat... whenever either one of us finds an answer, we need to share it with eachother XD

UnknownDreamland · January 2008

Hehe. Nickel, you and me have so much in common, it's scary. :] I have practiced yelling out the car window. Hehe. Sometimes it's fun being an idiot. But I have trouble realizing it. :roll:

Firekeeper3 · January 2008

Don't feel bad.. You're not alone! I'm terrified to be in front of groups or to talk to anyone I don't know. I can never ask for anything, either. I have a dreaded fear of phones and will go to almost any lengths to avoid talking to someone in person or on the phone. It's not that I don't want to, it's just really hard for me. That's why it's hard to get new friends. (although it's way easier to talk to friends and people on the Internet than it is in real life.) I have one good friend that I can be myself around (in fact, she's so close she's like a sister.). That's the only way I can talk. I don't care what she thinks about me, since she's almost me personality-wise. It's very odd because I'm in the same boat as you and Nickel... I really don't care what others think and I still can't talk to people. So... Journalism is kinda hard for me. Heh heh...

NickelbackLuver · January 2008

Lol, I want to take journalism so bad... but I'm scared of interviews >.< Speeches....You should see me. I stand in front of the class, and shake. And I'll have the perfect speech down in my head and repeat to myself, "Ok, I'm going to do it like this, and sound professional this time" What happened for my last speech? I totally forgot half of what I was going to say, rushed my speech, shook something awful, and made an idiot of myself >.< Not to mention it was a speech about dogs, and I get ragged on about liking dogs so much :roll: So, that made it 10x more worse than it needed to be. The only speech I ever made that I actually got out right, was when I talked about Tiffany, and that one I started crying towards the end of it, so despite talking right, I still messed it up in one way >.<. I think the only reason I managed to say it, was because I was lost in my head too much to remeber people were staring at me XD

Grapple · January 2008

I was like that until.. this year. You think you want to go back into your box and have people stop looking at you

that's how it was me. But then I started waving to people in there cars.. It worked. I don't know how, but it did

~Topleaf~ · January 2008

I have to say I have never been like that. I suppose at times I am a little too bold, which makes me look really weird, odd, and sometimes creepy. Certain people hate me, and vertain people really like me. But overall, you just pretty much have to play the part, act confident, and soon people will want to talk to you to be with someone so 'confident'.

Goldy · January 2008

once i started doin' bmx and meeting new people, confidence came real fast like. it is amazing to be friends with so many people i never thought i'd talk to. just find something your good at and strut your stuff. people will take notice!

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